So there's a new guy in my writer's group. Mid-fifties, big guy, a bit simple. He has absolutely no concept of boundaries, and I can sort of understand that because he has Asperger's Syndrome, like me. But he's started getting creepier and creepier.
Every time I see him he says something like "Wow! I still can't believe you're so young! You know, if I saw you walking down the street I'd think you were much older. MUCH older."
Might seem innocent enough in itself, but it's coupled with a hug, and not a shoulder-patting-friendly-hug--a hands-slightly-lower-than-they-really-should-be kind of hug. Plus, last week we had an exercise where the topic was "imagine", and he says "Alright, blokes! Imagine you're with your fantasy woman!" And he looked. Right. At. ME.
Thing is, he really is a child in a man's body. And he's not that bad a bloke, he just knows nothing of boundaries. The others in the group are aware of it and one of them has offered to have a chat with him, but I don't know... GAH!
Anyway. Imma hide under a rock now. Good evening.
Every time I see him he says something like "Wow! I still can't believe you're so young! You know, if I saw you walking down the street I'd think you were much older. MUCH older."
Might seem innocent enough in itself, but it's coupled with a hug, and not a shoulder-patting-friendly-hug--a hands-slightly-lower-than-they-really-should-be kind of hug. Plus, last week we had an exercise where the topic was "imagine", and he says "Alright, blokes! Imagine you're with your fantasy woman!" And he looked. Right. At. ME.
Thing is, he really is a child in a man's body. And he's not that bad a bloke, he just knows nothing of boundaries. The others in the group are aware of it and one of them has offered to have a chat with him, but I don't know... GAH!
Anyway. Imma hide under a rock now. Good evening.