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miafedup

First, let me just thank you for clicking on my thread. That you did shows you are both a kind person and a nosy one. I like you already.

In any case, hello. My name is Patty. And I'll be honest. I really am hesitant to join this (obviously fabulous) forum but was persuaded by others to give it a go. These others read my very small, very tiny little blog that I keep in my spare time.

I love writing. I love reading. I dig the whole literary scene and have nothing but admiration and respect for those that are a part of it. And I mean that with all sorts of sincerity.

But, yet, I've never considered getting published. It is the others who are pushing me to try to get published. And they might as well be pushing me to run for the presidency of the United States for I know nothing about the process. And I have little doubt that I am in over my head here.

So my question to you is...does getting published have to be a fire in your own belly? I mean, would I like to see a book with my name on it? Well, yea, come to think of it! Will my life be incomplete if I’m not? No, no, no. It's something I've just honestly never given a second thought to. I don't dream of living off my work, of giving interviews, of being adored and pampered. (Well, I mean I do, but not as a writer. I'm thinking guru on a mountain kind of thing).

I just kinda like to write, that's all. And so, being here in this forum, amongst talented writers with bellies full of fire, I couldn't possibly feel more insecure or fish out of water-ish than I do.

So. I really don't have a point other than to say, lovely to meet you and all that!! Thanks in advance for being gentle.
 

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I'm afraid you won't fit in at all, dear--most of us use this forum to procrastinate about writing while deluding ourselves that we must be doing something writerly; after all, isn't this a writing/writer forum?

Nah--seriously, you'll find all types in here. Mostly crazy types.

Welcome! :welcome:

One word of warning--this place is huge! Leave a trail of breadcrumbs or you'll get lost. Any questions, grab someone. Most of us don't bite, um, too hard. Just jump in wherever you want. Mac and the mods don't let the pirhanas escape too often. The water is always warm--hopefully not because people are ignoring the "Don't Pee in the Pool" signs.

We always love the taste of . . . I mean, we always love having new people joining us! :e2teeth:

And sometimes there's even a party in the chat room. Flash fiction challenges every Sunday evening.
 

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Patty: Most of us here do like to write, and we critize each others writing to try to make that writing better. I know in my case it is working (very slowly, but I'm getting there!).

A good many of us are yet unpublished, but we're working to rectify that situation.

Now let old Festus give you a warning: Writing is addictive. The "fire in the belly" can come on you at any moment once you start writing.

Ok, you've been warned, so you are you ready to risk it? If you are, come on and jump in with us!
 

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I can tell already by your intro that you have a nice voice, and if you get published, others will definitely benefit from your words. Go for it! It'll be fun and scary at the same time. I mean, of course, this forum.... but also the writing and publishing process. I've been at it for about two years, and I'm having a wild and fun ride!

Welcome!
 

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...I couldn't possibly feel more insecure or fish out of water-ish than I do.
See the fish in my avatar? That's what they look like when they're "out of water-ish." You, on the other hand, are now in a shimmering sea of like-minded souls who welcome you to test the waters and enjoy the warmth and sharing you'll find here.

Welcome to AW. :e2fish:
 

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Welcome. I've been on this site for a few months, still don't know my way around. :)
 

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:welcome: :TheWave: :welcome:
:hooray: :partyguy: :PartySmil :banana: :banana: :Jump: :banana: :wag:

Welcome to AW!

If you're more in love with writing itself than "being a writer" then you are more real than those who have their priorities the other way around.

Think of it this way. Lots of folks dream about living the life of a famous actor, but very few of them love acting itself. Those who love acting itself are the real actors, and (not coincidentally) also the ones most likely to have a big break.

A lot of us here are, or have been, confused or scared of the publishing part of the industry. It's a big complicated world, with scammers lurking about the edges, ever ready to give out the type of misinformation that helps perpetuate their scams. Just try to educate yourself before jumping in, and if something sounds weird or fishy, check it out more deeply before you sign anything. You've got plenty of company here to help you research just about anything.
 

miafedup

I'm afraid you won't fit in at all, dear--most of us use this forum to procrastinate about writing while deluding ourselves that we must be doing something writerly; after all, isn't this a writing/writer forum?

One word of warning--this place is huge! Leave a trail of breadcrumbs or you'll get lost. Any questions, grab someone. Most of us don't bite, um, too hard. Just jump in wherever you want. Mac and the mods don't let the pirhanas escape too often. The water is always warm--hopefully not because people are ignoring the "Don't Pee in the Pool" signs.

We always love the taste of . . . I mean, we always love having new people joining us! :e2teeth:

And sometimes there's even a party in the chat room. Flash fiction challenges every Sunday evening.

Thank you!! And since you offered (well, kinda, sorta, you did), I can't seem to get my profile to function properly. Here you are, with three gorgeous little faces on your profile, and I have none. I feel so naked.

When I went into my profile to cool-ify it, the changes wouldn't take. Do you have to get past your newbie status before all the bells and whistles show?

Well, whatever, I'll sort it out. Thanks kindly for not eating me and cheers!
 

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Who said crazy?! But yeah, of course you'll fit in here. What's great about this place is that most of the people are understanding. Welcome!
 

miafedup

:TheWave: :welcome:
:hooray: :partyguy: :PartySmil :banana: :banana: :Jump: :banana: :wag::welcome:

Welcome to AW!

If you're more in love with writing itself than "being a writer" then you are more real than those who have their priorities the other way around.

Think of it this way. Lots of folks dream about living the life of a famous actor, but very few of them love acting itself. Those who love acting itself are the real actors, and (not coincidentally) also the ones most likely to have a big break.

A lot of us here are, or have been, confused or scared of the publishing part of the industry. It's a big complicated world, with scammers lurking about the edges, ever ready to give out the type of misinformation that helps perpetuate their scams. Just try to educate yourself before jumping in, and if something sounds weird or fishy, check it out more deeply before you sign anything. You've got plenty of company here to help you research just about anything.

That's some welcome!! I'm particularly fond of the dancing banana's. Thank you so very much for your encouragement and wisdom.

And, you know, I started snooping around your profile and see you LJ too. I then got all presumptious and added you. If this makes you feel creeped out or anything, just kindly let me know.

Anyway, many thanks again for the welcome!
 

miafedup

See the fish in my avatar? That's what they look like when they're "out of water-ish." You, on the other hand, are now in a shimmering sea of like-minded souls who welcome you to test the waters and enjoy the warmth and sharing you'll find here.

Welcome to AW. :e2fish:

Hee hee. My people, where have you been all my life.

Thanks for the warm welcome. :)
 

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Yep--you have to get rid of your newbie status to do the cool avatar thingy, Peggy.

You have to have at least 10 rep points--which is how much you start with, anyway. You can view them in your "User CP" area; the menu is at the top of the page. And you have to have at least 50 posts. Posts don't count in Office Party and Take it Outside areas. You'll want to post in the writing areas to get your post count up.

There are plenty of places to get your feet wet in the Water Cooler, though.
 

miafedup

I can tell already by your intro that you have a nice voice, and if you get published, others will definitely benefit from your words. Go for it! It'll be fun and scary at the same time. I mean, of course, this forum.... but also the writing and publishing process. I've been at it for about two years, and I'm having a wild and fun ride!

Welcome!

Thank you much for the nice compliment! You're so bouncy and encouraging. You're fun, I like you. Suddenly I feel like I can move mountains.

Anyway, lovely to meet you.

And all of you's! And here I thought I was going to be chewed up and left for dead. (That's not a dare. Please don't gnaw on the newbie).
 

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Cool-someone else to relate to. Welcome Patty. You'll have a ball. I'm basically addicted to AW and pissing my hubby off big time coz of it. Yay!!! But you know..ya gotta do what ya gotta do. BTW-check out the 'Uncle Jim' thread in writing novels and also the share your work section. That's where i've lurked and learnt the most. Jump in....
 

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Hi Patty! Welcome!

Don't quote me on this because I don't remember, but I think you can choose a generic avatar for your profile now. You can't upload your own pic until you get to 50 posts (like Shwebb said). 45 more to posts to go!
 

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Welcome, Patty! I am only a day older than you, and have not yet been gnawed on either; this is, aside from being easily the best source of info on all sorts of writing-related things I've ever seen, is the least brutal forum I've ever been on. (Now that I've said that I'll probably get eaten alive, but hey, I'll have fun on the way there.)
Re fire in the belly or lack thereof, as far as I'm concerned writing is the fire in the belly. Everything else comes after that. So you fit right in.
Enjoy!
 

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Howdy do!

Relax, it's not as scary as it seems in here. There are some very decent hardworking people who genuinely care about helping you become a great writer. Ask questions and bring chocolates. You'll be in like Flynn--

Welcome!
 

miafedup

Hi Patty! Welcome!

Don't quote me on this because I don't remember, but I think you can choose a generic avatar for your profile now. You can't upload your own pic until you get to 50 posts (like Shwebb said). 45 more to posts to go!

Look, I'm an orange fish! That feels like a good fit.

Thanks for your really warm welcome! I'm still a tad stunned at how nice everyone is here. Not that you wouldn't be but, well, I'm 38 years old. Officially bitter and all that.

:)
 

miafedup

Howdy do!

Relax, it's not as scary as it seems in here. There are some very decent hardworking people who genuinely care about helping you become a great writer. Ask questions and bring chocolates. You'll be in like Flynn--

Welcome!
I've got chocolate. I'm all about chocolate. If you need a fix, remember to come see me. ;)

And thanks for the welcome!!
 

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Welcome! If you get a chance, pop over to the Freelance forum. The next monthly contest will start up soon. It helps us get some publish-ready work going on in an (almost) painless way. Just ignore Joanne's (jdkiggins--you'll learn bucketfuls from her) whip. It doesn't hurt that much, and most of the folks over there can be bribed into being nice if you bring enough chocolate. And Girl Scout cookies. We love Girl Scout cookies.

38 years old? I remember 38. . .
 
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