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It's sex talk Tuesday, who needs a talkin' to?
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Alan Yee said:Terri, how do you do it? Kevin Y. and davids have suddenly woken up and resurrected from the dead to talk about sex. You didn't do the Sleeping Beauty thing, did you?
And it seems there are people that don't like me talking about sex, got a talking to about it. If anyone has a problem talk to me, not run to the mods. I will be the bigger person and appologize for it.
You guys who are complaining lose the love of your life and see how you take it. Let's see just how you cope with the loss. Humor is how I do it, it is the only thing that keeps me from breaking down everyday and crying. If it happened to any of you and you used humor, even raunchy humor, or you became bitchy and snapped on everyone I would never run and cry to the mods for it. I would see it for what it is, a defense mechanism to help you get through your day.
But so be it, I don't care aymore. I have a hell of a lot more things to worry about in my life, like my best friend dying from liver failure just like my wife did, then worrying about hurting a few peoples feelings with humor.
Alan, yeah I was ressurected but it seems there are some that wish I weren't. So I may just go back to lurking.
Terri, thanks for the thread where I could use humor and not get people pissed off. Sorry for hijaking it though. Keep those toes warm.
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Kevin I do not know you but just to let you know you are not alone. I married my first wife when I was but a mild 23-eight years later she died. So I understand the pain. It seemed to me that Alan was just having a bit of fun with the two of us-he has not seen me around here although I do partake in a lot of the poetry things-I am happy to see you even though I do not know you at all-just because I can truly understand-so am I missing something here-I am an old fart so maybe I have-who is pissed off? This is the first time I have ever mentioned the passing of my first love-so at least to me your feelings are important-and I am about the least trying to please mushy old bastardo you will ever meet.
It's not Alan, Davids. He is a friend of mine. I got a PM from a mod that said people are complaining. If they have a problem with me then I wish they would come to me so I can appologize to them.
Like I said, I have a lot more things to worry about right now. Watching my best friend die from liver failure just like my wife did, only this time it is slow and not fast. And this is the only other woman I had ever loved besides my wife. My stepmom has a liver that is shot and who knows how much longer she has to live. I got two autistic boys I'm raising on my own. My step dad has prostate cancer. My grandma has cancer throughout her body. So right now the feelings of a few people who find my sense of humor offensive is not high on my list of things to worry about. If it gets me banned I really don't care. Humor is helping me keep my sanity and that is more important than upseting someone. If I have to leave I will, no skin off of my teeth.
Like I said, I have a lot more things to worry about right now. Watching my best friend die from liver failure just like my wife did, only this time it is slow and not fast. And this is the only other woman I had ever loved besides my wife. My stepmom has a liver that is shot and who knows how much longer she has to live. I got two autistic boys I'm raising on my own. My step dad has prostate cancer. My grandma has cancer throughout her body. So right now the feelings of a few people who find my sense of humor offensive is not high on my list of things to worry about. If it gets me banned I really don't care. Humor is helping me keep my sanity and that is more important than upseting someone. If I have to leave I will, no skin off of my teeth.
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Actually, if someone is uncomfortable with a member, Kevin, that's precisely what the mods are for.
I know you're upset and grieving, Kevin. And you're one of ours--it's distressing to not know how to help a guy who has been a deeply valued member of this community for a long time. I would very much hope that you continue to find refuge, here. I honestly don't believe for a moment that anyone wants you to leave.
Friends and people who know us very well are far more likely to say something, if they perceive a need--but not everyone is comfortable with that. Certainly, not everyone is comfortable saying straight out, "Dude, lay off with the descriptions of dried on jizz, okay? Yuck."
And honestly, it's not just one person. I'm getting more and more questions and comments and concern about this whole topic, in general.
So we have mods, so that posts can be reported, and questionable content can be addressed.
When it's something sensitive, we try very hard to handle it behind the scenes. There's no way I'd be addressing this on the open board, quite frankly, if you hadn't felt the need to vent and essentially attack other forum members who simply don't know you well enough to approach you directly.
I think a couple of other things, as well. I think this IS an open forum, and there's a level of decorum for public behavior that's gone pretty ignored. I certainly know there are highly googleable posts all over TIO and OP that I suspect, frankly, will be deeply embarrassing for the folks who make 'em, at some point.
With that said, I'm going to close this thread, and I'm going to think really hard about how we--as a community of adults, children, men, women, straight, queers, religious and nonreligious--can find where the zone really is for what's appropriate to talk about here, and what's just not.
Because flirting is very normal and human, and it's frankly not going to stop. I don't expect it to. I'm definitely not lunatic enough to try and make any rules around it.
I am going to ask everyone to take a breath, now and then, though--and think about whether you'd like your pre-teen child to read some of the stuff that's been said, around the various threads.
Because someone's pre-teen child most assuredly IS.
I would like to make it very clear that Writerterri's thread is not typically offensive in the slightest--but a "sex talk" thread title is lending to a climate of anything goes, and you know what guys? Anything doesn't.
I'd also very much be willing to answer PMs regarding this. I'm not going to have a long, drawn out discussion on the boards about it, though.
I know you're upset and grieving, Kevin. And you're one of ours--it's distressing to not know how to help a guy who has been a deeply valued member of this community for a long time. I would very much hope that you continue to find refuge, here. I honestly don't believe for a moment that anyone wants you to leave.
Friends and people who know us very well are far more likely to say something, if they perceive a need--but not everyone is comfortable with that. Certainly, not everyone is comfortable saying straight out, "Dude, lay off with the descriptions of dried on jizz, okay? Yuck."
And honestly, it's not just one person. I'm getting more and more questions and comments and concern about this whole topic, in general.
So we have mods, so that posts can be reported, and questionable content can be addressed.
When it's something sensitive, we try very hard to handle it behind the scenes. There's no way I'd be addressing this on the open board, quite frankly, if you hadn't felt the need to vent and essentially attack other forum members who simply don't know you well enough to approach you directly.
I think a couple of other things, as well. I think this IS an open forum, and there's a level of decorum for public behavior that's gone pretty ignored. I certainly know there are highly googleable posts all over TIO and OP that I suspect, frankly, will be deeply embarrassing for the folks who make 'em, at some point.
With that said, I'm going to close this thread, and I'm going to think really hard about how we--as a community of adults, children, men, women, straight, queers, religious and nonreligious--can find where the zone really is for what's appropriate to talk about here, and what's just not.
Because flirting is very normal and human, and it's frankly not going to stop. I don't expect it to. I'm definitely not lunatic enough to try and make any rules around it.
I am going to ask everyone to take a breath, now and then, though--and think about whether you'd like your pre-teen child to read some of the stuff that's been said, around the various threads.
Because someone's pre-teen child most assuredly IS.
I would like to make it very clear that Writerterri's thread is not typically offensive in the slightest--but a "sex talk" thread title is lending to a climate of anything goes, and you know what guys? Anything doesn't.
I'd also very much be willing to answer PMs regarding this. I'm not going to have a long, drawn out discussion on the boards about it, though.
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