Well, I'm not a psychiatrist...lol. But I think you're in the normal range. The new novel is a shiny, beloved thing, and there's a reason many people say it's like a child. You want people to love it as you do. You spent months (maybe years) helping it to be the best it can. You want to be embraced. Maybe it's closer to meeting the new inlaws, come to think of it. You really need for them to like you, and you've dressed up and smile a lot and are hopeful. If you overhear Ma in the kitchen calling you a pudgy tart, that's going to hurt.
The thing with the novel is this: it isn't you. If no one wants it at all, it says nothing about you. You're still an okay person. It may not even say much about your writing. Maybe a popular novel just got published that's too close to it. Maybe the first agent hates people with your first name. Maybe a lot of things that have nothing to do with you or your novel.
Or, maybe, it will be rejected and because it's not good enough. This is painful, but pretty common. You continue writing and get better and keep submitting and one day, an agent will ask for a full and you'll finally get that phone call.
Good for you for getting this far. You've done your job. It's time for the agents to do theirs. Now go work on the new thing: that's your job now.
