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Viola2007

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Cultural Difference.

I am undergoing a period of doubt that has me very depressed. Maybe you can help me.
For the last four years, I´ve been trying to write professionally with hopes of eventual publication. I finished one novel, and I have three on the making. But I seem to tackle controversial subjects in the sense that certain things perfectly acceptable in my culture, clash with American sensitivities.
For example, in my latest novel, I try to recreate several family anecdotes, includingt he marriages of both my grandparents. My maternal grandparents were first cousins. My paternal grandfather was 38 when he married my fifteen-year-old grandmother. They were very happy despite their age difference. In the context of the novel (Latin America in the 40’s), there’s nothing objectionable about both unions. But I´m told no American agent (or publishing house for all that matters) would touch a first novel with such difficult subjects (cousin marriage and child bride). Is that so? Why are Mansfield Park and Louisa May Alcott’s Rose in Bloom (both dealing with cousin marriage) still read? What about GWTW? Ashley and Melanie were first cousins. Scarlett marries at 16, and her mother married at fifteen. Or is it a contemporary taboo?
By the way, my novel is a romantic suspense and I never write anything in contemporary settings.
 

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I think it's a contemporary taboo. It's too close to statutory rape (though I've read several Bertrice Small books that have 13 year old heroines, so).

As for the cousins, I think it's another contemporary taboo. I mean, the ancient egyptians married brothers and sisters, but you don't see it happening nowdays. So it depends on the context of the story, I think.

But unless someone has singled out these elements specifically - or they are in a contemporary setting - it might just be the writing, to be honest. Not any one thing.

It also depends on the genre. If it is specifically romance, it might be a harder sell than say, family drama.
 

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my suggestion is that you try to market it as a more ethnic novel, if that makes sense. emphasize the cultural difference, rather than trying to make it mainstream. i'm sure there are plenty of agents that would rep it. also, you might want to move away from the romance angle a little bit and make it more about personal and familial struggle. this is just an idea, honestly. don't lose hope!
 

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As a romance, it would definitely squick me out...only because those are taboo and I don't find it a bit romantic to marry your cousin. Ick.

But like Irys said, as a family drama it wouldn't be as bad.
 

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there are agents who claim to be looking for 'multiculti' romance. Try them first. Emphasize that these are cultural norms. They might be able to find them a home.
 

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Thank you very much for steering me in the right direction.
I will go multicultural. I did a quick research in Agent Query and found many agents that deal with it. Wish me luck.
Irysangel, thank you for reminding me of Bertrice Small. She had many underage brides. Skye O’Malley, Adora, Maude in Enchantress Mine. In Love Lost Found, Valentina marries her first cousin Padraic. In Beloved, Queen Zenobia marries her own uncle.
Betrice Small is not a multicultural writer, but she started publishing in the 70’s. Chances are this caveat didn´t exist back then.
 

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George R.R. Martin's wildly successful fantasy series, in current publication, has 12- and 13-year-olds marrying men in their 40s, and brothers and sisters parenting kings. So it's not totally taboo. I suspect it's considered off-limits in the confines of Romance.

I concur with the good advice you're already taking, that because this was not out of line for the time and place where you work is set, you need to be marketing it as ethnic and to be sure you educate the reader on the realities as they existed.

Maryn, glad to meet you
 

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There was a YA book that dealt with two cousins falling in love during WWIII, How I Live Now, by Meg Rosoff. She's written about the response to the subject (at least I know I saw an interview with questions about it), you might want to look her up. It seems like readers had more issue with it than the publishing world, I had a copy in my classroom library and kids kept bringing it back and going, yuck!
 

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In my opinion, it's really all about context. If you simply present the bare facts: 38 year old man marries 15 year old, of COURSE people are going to say "Ew, no!"

But if you place the "bare facts" within a rich cultural setting and an appropriate time period, then you should be fine. If it's outside the cultural norm, you have to offer some sort of explanation or justification.

Incidentally, my parents were 16 and 26 when they started dating. 15 and 25 when they first met. And my dad already had a child. :)
 
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