The value of a writer's time - ranty ranty rant

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Bit of a rant coming up.

Last night I got a text message from a friend offering to take me to see The Simpsons Movie tonight. Now, she knows I'm a writer and doesn't normally land me with invites at the eleventh hour, but this was the day before, so okay, I agreed, we're texting each other with arrangements just now and will meet up later. She's the type of person to say, "How's your writing going?" and she introduces me to people as "My friend Nicky. She's a writer," which makes me glow with pride.

So. Someone else who's not exactly a friend but a klingon from schooldays who's now got kids, made bad choices in relationships, etc etc...she called this afternoon to ask if she could come round for the sake of getting out of the house. Or what about this evening. I explained I was going out to the cinema so this evening was out, and she suggested I could take her elder son with me...er, no thanks! Look after your own brats!

But, as I'm in a good mood for once, or at least was, I said I could rearrange a few things and she could come round soon if she gave me time to clean up, pack away the laptop, etc, which she agreed to. I've got quite a bit of writing done lately so felt I could have an afternoon off.

So, I was just getting ready for my visitors - two kids an' all, what was I thinking? - when she phoned again to say the boys wanted to do something else, so she wasn't coming.

Oh, well, that's okay then, 'cause I wasn't doing anything important! I don't have an edit to finish, a synopsis to write, I didn't receive an email this afternoon with a friend's work attached for me to read, so go ahead, muck me about 'cause we all know your time is more important than mine and I just sit around all day waiting to have my time rearranged to others' convenience!!!

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Well we all know writing is THE most important calling so your friends need a reality check CLEARLY.


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Wanna go out to the coffee house...since you're not doing anything anyway?
 

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It's not just that you're a writer. She would have done that to anyone.
I used to have friends like that. I've lost whole weekends to people who casually break arrangements, sometimes clean forgetting them.
I've cancelled those people outta my life. Took me a while to cop on to them, but once I did I was ruthless.
I only once engaged in an act of petty revenge.
Once a woman friend I knew who canceled on me for the pettiest of reasons moved to the back of beyonds.
She then invited me to come for the weekend, cos she was bored I believe.
I accepted with great enthusiasm, only to ring up and cancel saying another friend was coming to stay with me on the Friday. What could she say? She'd done the same to me before.
Anyway, I didn't like me, doing things like that, so I just cut her out of my life instead. For a while she contented herself with sending me texts about all the married men she was sleeping with, cos she knew I dissapproved. It's a long story (but she came to no good :D Perhaps she's doing better now. Lets hope so)
It can feel like you don't know loads of people to hang out with for a while, but gradually your life fills up again with good folk.
Next time, be firm. Don't change your writing plans.
 

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Putting the question of how she does or doesn't value your time to the side, you need to explain to this friend that she's doing it all wrong.

If she's trying to escape, she's supposed to leave the kids at home.
 

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Scarletpeaches, perhaps you can get revenge by putting her in a work of fiction and finding something suitably horrific to do to her.

Painless for all concerned, but it does make you feel better!

Shara
 

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I think you should offer to watch her kids one afternoon.

Then call her later and say that you're not really up to it anymore, maybe next time.
 
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