am not

[reenkam]

Okay, when two people are having an "argument" and they're going back and forth is it:

"Am not." "Are to." "Am not." "Are to."

or

"Am not." "Are, too." "Am not." "Are, too."

Basically I'm asking about the to/too. I thought the second was right, but I don't really get what the 'too' is refering to...same with the 'to'.

so which is it??

[alleycat]

Too.

Only I wouldn't use the comma.

"I am not."
"You are too."
"Am not."
"Are too."

[reenkam]

Thanks!

[Cath]

Alley's right.

You're using too (as in also or as well as) not to (as in, to do something).

[Maryn]

FWIW, this was my first question on the grammar board, specifically about whether the comma before too absolutely had to be there if, in a heated and fast exchange, the speakers didn't pause in the slightest.

The overwhelming majority felt the comma was required.

Are, too!
Am not.
You are, too!

Maryn, ordinarily a comma freak but prefers this one be omitted