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I read a post by a girl who wants to give up because she's been critiqued pretty hard.

I'm sorry, but that's just wrong.

1st: Nothing should be given to someone else to read until you think it's right. Giving someone a rough draft to critique is just silly.

2nd: Not everyone is capable of critiquing work. You might get someone who is all proud of themselves because they've finally learned that adverbs in dialogue tags should be avoided, so they hammer on them. Forget that. If the only problem with a story is simple style stuff like that, it can all be corrected by editing. Remember, some people suck so bad at writing that the only way they can be fulfilled is to put themselves out as "beta-readers" editors, or critiquers. Most of them don't have a clue. The ones who do have a clue are probably agents and editors at publishing houses. So, be careful whose opinion you accept.

3rd. Anyone who critiques must be able to say how it should be done to be correct. If they say something is not right, then they must say how it should be, otherwise they're just noise.

4th. No one should critique a work that is so bad it requires a longer critique than the actual work itself. They should just hand it back and say they can't do it. It's not the job of a critiquer to teach creative writing.

5th. My wife is my editor. We have been editing each other's work so long that we can bleed all over a page with red ink, hand it back, and it means nothing to us personally. I get back red ink and all I think is thank god I didn't have to pay for this. An editor is a tool a writer uses. Until a person can separate their self-worth from their writing mistakes, they can never be a writer. The writing process is like this for every single writer: Rough draft, revision, proofreading. Revision and proofing hurt--for every single writer.

Most people only have enough self-esteem for the rough draft, so they can never succeed as writers.

I'm revising my novel now. When I read a chapter and I'm x'ing out paragraphs and bleeding red ink all over it, and then have to update on the computer and reprint it because there's too much red ink to make sense of it: that sucks. That's all negative. But it's the writing process. I either accept it, do the work, and carry-on, or I become a lawyer or a teacher or some other profession. Anyone who thinks they're better than me, given what I've just described, I gaurantee you, they're not--they're worse.

So, remember what every writing teacher who's ever spent a day in their life will tell you: first you get it written, then you get it right.

I think that girl was sending out her manuscripts before she did the work of revision and proofing.

All I know is that what I'm going through now with revision is hard, and I have written a lot, and this is enough to sap anyone's self-confidence. I'm about as self-confident as a person can be outside a psychiatric facility, and it's taking a toll. I have a feeling that most writers, who I know damn well don't think as highly of themselves as I do of myself, don't really have the stomach for revision. Every coma splice to them is a personal insult. Every passive sentence is a pimple with puss. Every wordy paragraph is a shit stain on their underwear in the junior high locker room. (Sorry. I've been indulging a bit too much tonight in the blood of Christ.).

Tell me I'm wrong. Go ahead. I dare you.

Jesus, I need some Aqua fria.

Sincerely,

Ed (I think)

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Whenever I lose confidence, I remember God told me I am The Writer. And all is right with the world.
 

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Shouldn't never go upset when giving hard criticts. Think it this way: good or bad critic builds more, you can make it better. Or you just forget the crituquer. :)

That's what I do.
 

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Good OP. I likes.

But I must admit, editing doesn't make me angsty. I get excited, 'cause I see things taking shape.
 

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I could be misreading that first sentence, Seun, but it's you who decides if you wish to be a writer or not.

Good luck, and it's only hard work that produces results.

And it's the writing that us critters are commenting upon - not the writer, even though it may wrongly be taken the latter way sometimes.

Whenever I lose confidence, I remember God told me I am The Writer. And all is right with the world.
 

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Bufty, there's some, umm, leg-pulling going on in Seun's post. You hadda be there, though, or it doesn't make any sense.
 

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Oh, OK Mac. Gotcha, and apologies, Seun. :Hug2:

Bufty, there's some, umm, leg-pulling going on in Seun's post. You hadda be there, though, or it doesn't make any sense.
 

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I want Geist to critique my work! I may not have the self-esteem he does, but I'm ready for that kind of brutal honesty. Sometimes I think the people I've asked to read my novel are just being nice. I stayed away from my friends for that purpose, asking only acquaintances I could trust not to lose it in a public place to read it. Maybe they've been too nice. I don't want any flowery "ooh, this is so good" bullshit. I want hard-core "this is how you fix it" nuts and bolts.
 

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i sent my uncle ( a very clever chap) a chapter once. he has said many times he will get back to me about it. i think his silence speaks volumes.
i keep trying. if i gave up i know where there are super market shelves that need stacking. when i consider this i imagine all the crazy characters i would meet and how i would weave them into a story, then i write and forget about tescos grim shadow.
tescos!?! i have a university degree. a science education depreciates so quickly. time to work on that sci fi, the guy who works in tescos on mars.
 

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Dear Geist

I think it is my post you are referring to and the thing is that I did not at any point say I was giving up. It is also not a commentary on the critiques themselves, which are very valuable.

I think that people are all different (thank goodness, or we would have very little to write about). Some are supremely confident all the time and some are not confident at all and then there are many shades in between. I don't think having a moment of doubt is the same thing as - your work is not polished.

AW is a wonderful place to interact with and share with other writers. When you have a success, it is wonderful to share it. And when you're feeling down, it is great to be able to share that too and there are some fantastic people on this board who are supportive and give wonderful advice. Sometimes it is about sharing an experience or a feeling. This is not the same as - I had a bit of a bad crit so now I'm not writing any more, so there.

I would hate to see people being too scared to share their feelings of doubt or loneliness because they are afraid that they will be taken to task for it.
 

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I am afraid I must disagree a bit with your post, Geist, although not entirely. You do make some excellent points, but around the fifth point, you begin to fall into generalizations that lack the feeling of any hard data support. But that is not why I posted. We all tend to generalize, and I have faith that folks realize your words in that section are your generalizations based on your experiences. The points I really wanted to focus on were the third and the fourth.

3rd. Anyone who critiques must be able to say how it should be done to be correct. If they say something is not right, then they must say how it should be, otherwise they're just noise.

I recently received a slew of critiques on a story in which most of the readers were vastly confused as to what was going on. They could not provide for me a method of letting them know what was going on because I had not provided them with enough grounding to make suggestions on. Did that make their critiques useless? Goodness, no! It is my job as a writer to figure out how to fix a problem within my style. The main point of the critiques (in my opinion) is to locate the problem areas where readers may have issues, not to fix them for me. For some things, it is easy to make some suggestions that are generic enough to be applicable in any style, but other things really just need a pointing out of the issue's existence. That is all.

4th. No one should critique a work that is so bad it requires a longer critique than the actual work itself. They should just hand it back and say they can't do it. It's not the job of a critiquer to teach creative writing.

On this point, I feel you are doing a disservice to those folks in need of great assistance. If a specific critiquer does not wish to "teach creative writing", then they can choose to not critique. That is their choice. But others might enjoy giving a few pointers to the above writer and watching them grow crit by crit. If we simply ignored or spurned every new poster who posted their work a bit prematurely, where would that leave us as a community? If you choose to ignore those in need, that is fine, but there is a certain feeling of condemnation in your absolutisms that worries me.


-Michelle
 

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The reason I'm not trying to be a professional singer isn't because I'm a quitter, it's because I realize that I don't have enough talent to ever sing professionally.
 

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I want Geist to critique my work! I may not have the self-esteem he does, but I'm ready for that kind of brutal honesty. Sometimes I think the people I've asked to read my novel are just being nice. I stayed away from my friends for that purpose, asking only acquaintances I could trust not to lose it in a public place to read it. Maybe they've been too nice. I don't want any flowery "ooh, this is so good" bullshit. I want hard-core "this is how you fix it" nuts and bolts.
Me, too. I want Geist to shred my shit...for my own good. I don't want someone to blow sunshine up my ass to make me feel good....because rejections sure as crap do not make me feel good at all!
 

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3rd. Anyone who critiques must be able to say how it should be done to be correct. If they say something is not right, then they must say how it should be, otherwise they're just noise.

I have to agree with Michelle. New York Times critics don't say how the book should've been written. They say what works, what doesn't, what's most interesting and what's most disappointing.
 
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I read a post by a girl who wants to give up because she's been critiqued pretty hard.

I'm sorry, but that's just wrong

Anyone who says "I'm sorry but..." actually means, "I'm not sorry."

It's not for anyone to say whether someone else's decision to give up writing is wrong. Besides, if one is so easily swayed by a critique, are they truly a writer anyway, or just a precious dabbler?

That's if this person has decided to give up, anyway.
 

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2nd: Not everyone is capable of critiquing work. You might get someone who is all proud of themselves because they've finally learned that adverbs in dialogue tags should be avoided, so they hammer on them. Forget that. If the only problem with a story is simple style stuff like that, it can all be corrected by editing. Remember, some people suck so bad at writing that the only way they can be fulfilled is to put themselves out as "beta-readers" editors, or critiquers. Most of them don't have a clue. The ones who do have a clue are probably agents and editors at publishing houses. So, be careful whose opinion you accept.

I like the section in bold. Good advice for anyone - everything goes with a grain of salt. That being said, I call foul on the italicized portion. *Blows referee whistle* Ebert's law violation - two minutes in the penalty box. You don't have to be a great director to be a great critic, and you don't have to be a great writer to give great critique.

3rd. Anyone who critiques must be able to say how it should be done to be correct. If they say something is not right, then they must say how it should be, otherwise they're just noise.

I disagree. 'This big lump here lost my attention,' is definitely something I find useful.

4th. No one should critique a work that is so bad it requires a longer critique than the actual work itself. They should just hand it back and say they can't do it. It's not the job of a critiquer to teach creative writing.

If the critter has some good advice, I don't understand why they can't. No, it isn't their job, but if they've got some pointers and they want to, why not?
 

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Why? Has he done any critiques? I can't find 'em, but maybe I'm looking in the wrong place.

And if one wants crits, it helps to post something for crit - no?


I want Geist to critique my work! I may not have the self-esteem he does, but I'm ready for that kind of brutal honesty. Sometimes I think the people I've asked to read my novel are just being nice. I stayed away from my friends for that purpose, asking only acquaintances I could trust not to lose it in a public place to read it. Maybe they've been too nice. I don't want any flowery "ooh, this is so good" bullshit. I want hard-core "this is how you fix it" nuts and bolts.
 
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The reason I'm not trying to be a professional singer isn't because I'm a quitter, it's because I realize that I don't have enough talent to ever sing professionally.
It takes an awful lot of work to get to a point where you even can know that, though. Every virtuoso works his or her ass off, too -- it's not all about talent.
 

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In my case, my lack of musical talent is very obvious after a few notes. It is possible, however, to write 100,000 crappy words without showing anyone.
 

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In my case, my lack of musical talent is very obvious after a few notes. It is possible, however, to write 100,000 crappy words without showing anyone.

Very true. It is also possible, after concerted effort, to turn those 100,000 crappy words and turn them into 90,000 good ones--or 115,000. Writing is the same as any other developed skill: you eventually get out of it what you put into it. It's natural for a writer who isn't on the level of Hemingway or Faulkner to lose their confidence in their abilities for a time. All it took for me were my first few (hundred) rejection letters. In the end, though, it motivated me to take a good, hard look at my work and improve it.
 
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