I can't get into the Share Your Work board. <sigh> I don't know why, I've tried countless things.
Hearing crits can be really hard at first. I cried

at first. <G> (Not where anyone could see me. <G>) I was lucky to have good critters from the very beginning, back in my fanfic days. But it's hard to hear. I am one of those perfectionist people, and let's face it, there's no such thing as perfect with a ms. That's a tough thing to grasp for someone like me. It's NEVER going to be perfect. Still, we make it the best we can at the time.
Those first crits helped me thicken my skin, try to learn that "fix this" doesn't mean: "you did it WRONG, you are a FAILURE."
Still, when I got my first set of line edits (line edits are different from revisions) back, I was incredibly disheartened. I cried again. <G> Honestly, in a 320 page ms, there was ONE PAGE that hadn't been touched in some way. ONE PAGE. <G>

Paragraphs, even whole pages slashed, stuff rewritten, words changed, etc. I thought, man, why did they buy this book if it sucks so badly? LOL.
I finally got the courage up to ask the other Superromance authors about my experience. Yeah. Turns out I was not alone, that this was just how Super did line edits. Heavy for everyone. Phew. It wasn't me! I didn't suck dishwater!

Phew. What a relief.

I also learned to warn any new Super authors to expect this when they get their first line edits. It's so much easier to deal with when you know it's coming, and you know it's not just you. (I have been thanked for this service by the newbies I've prepared. Forewarned is forearmed.)
Good crits are really valuable, even if they do sting at first. There's a new Super author who sold after I gave her a crit that involved creating a whole new opening for her book. Originally she opened with a news article that relayed the hero's disappearence. I recommend she actually SHOW that scene. (The article was TELLING. A scene would be SHOWING, much more dynamic.) She considered what I said, decided my comment had merit, and went ahead and wrote a new scene. She entered the revised ms in a contest that Laura Shin, Senior Ed at Super, was judging. Laura liked it enough to ask to see the ms, liked it enough to ask Ellen to do some revisions, which Ellen DID, and eventually she bought the ms.
Isn't that the goal?
So growing a thick skin is an important thing for a writer. That's not to say crits (or reviews! <G>) will never sting in the future.

You'll just handle the sting better.

(With drinks and cookies. <G> Chocolate. And you wonder why many writers tend toward a few extra pounds??? LOL.)
Susan G.