I think all your complaints are exactly what's right with the Potter books, not what's wrong with them. Everything you list as being a probelm is exactly why most readers love the Potter books. They ring true to life, and real life is almost always just this way, and so are friends.
Really? That surprises me. I always thought it was because people think it would be pretty cool to find out they can leave behind a sucky life and be a wizard! I agree with the idesa of imperfect characters that reflect real life, but Rowling seems to be portraying this kind of realationship as
okay. It may be real life sometimes, but it isn't okay. You should have a goal to make your realationships better, and Rowling's characters don't seem to have thois goal. Hermione finds it acceptable to hate Ron and vis versa. They are completely and utterly selfish, not bothering to think about how the other character feels and figure things out. It's a perfect example pof those evil marriages where the spouses hate each other instead of loving each other, and the result is a divorce where everyone ends up messed up. The first few books showed understandable first time friendship problems and the characters seem to be getting better. By book six they have become a band of egotistical selfish jerks held together for the sake of the plot, too proud to admit they are wrong and set things right. This is as anti-hero as ypou can get, not admiting to hurting someone when you know you are wrong and using excuses like "well he did such and such" to satisfy your own nagging conscience until you've become nothing more than a bitter shell of hatred, selfishness, and a down right nasty person. Ring a bell? Umbridge. She can't apologize for doing wrong to Potter, she can't see things from other peoples views and she hates anyone who stands in her way. The evolution of Hermione in my opinion, and I find this really sad, since in the first few books, Hermione was areally nice girl filled with potential. Ron used to be halfway decent too, and now, I hate him sooo much. He is a very big jerk and even though Hermione has some problems, she still has potential and I think her inner self wants to be kind, but hey, after sticking around with friends who yell at you when ever you give advice, I think you'd be pretty annpoyed too. So it kind of disgusts me that Ron likes Hermione and vice versa, that whole love "battle" in which they try and destroy each others souls because they "love" each other. If that's America's definition of love, then we are in some deep sh*t. Ron isn't worthy of Hermione. Harry seems to be the only character that maintains good "hero' qualities outside of the battle, I don't Rowling could get away with making Harry a nasty little brat. Yet, Harry seems to start losing it in the Sixth book, with his jabs at Hermione. And then his own friends won't believe him, even when he was right for the last Five books! Then they're like, "Oh, my Gosh. You were actually right." It's a down right nasty path to send people down and in addition, there are perfectly wonderful realationships out there were people love each other and actually mean it. And in addition, you think that Rowling would have
some character developement that doesn't involve knowing more magic or getting horimones. But that isn't really the case. As friends, they don't become more aware of each other, trust each other more, or learn to deal with the problems all friends encounter to an even mildly acceptable degree. They get worse, nasty, meaner. At least Narcaza loves her husband. Hermione can't even say sorry for three weeks.
-Vuligora