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Eldrich

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Hello everyone,

I have been reading this site for months and finally decided to register. I am 27, and have been an avid reader and have 'sort of' been writing since elementary school. By sort of I mean that I have always had stories in my mind and have written the beginnings, outlines, notes, or snippets of images for years, collecting them in notebooks and massive folders on my computers, but had never completed anything. Further, I have, for reasons I don't entirely understand, been embarrassed by my desire to write and have done so secretly without telling anyone.

Recently, my wife lived in a different city for 3 months and I took this as an opportunity to buckle down and finally write something. I did, sort of. This time, by 'sort of', I mean I didn't finish the story before she came back. But she returned a few months ago and when she did I told her I was trying to write a story. It took me a couple more months to finish a draft of the short story I was working on, which I did a few weeks ago.

I put the story on hold for a while and my wife finally read it this weekend. I also finally read it with fresh eyes and see the revisions I want to work on. My wife was, of course, supportive, but the little amount of feedback was not enough as I think I need, and I didn't want to press her for more.

I am studying for my PhD in physics, so writing has been, and will be for a while, a back up. But honestly, and I've never told anyone this, I would give it all up if I could make a living writing. I've always known that.

So here's to ripping the band-aid off and trying as I can! Has anyone else felt embarrassed by their desire to be a writer? I intend to revise this story and submit it to a magazine I've read since I was in elementary school (not because I have any illusion it'll be accepted, but because i've read it for years and it's been a dream to just have something complete to send them) and then work on other stories.

Eldrich
 

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Welcome to the water cooler, Eldrich. I've never been embarrassed by my desire to write but I have been and am embarrassed that I waited so long to do something about that desire.

ETA: Well done on the story. Edit and polish it 'til it shines and submit it!
 

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Welcome to AW. Hope you enjoy your stay with us.
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If you go to the bottom of the page to the ‘forum jump’ you can scroll down and find all the areas of this place. Most of the SYW areas require the password of ….vista. A word to the wise, (50 posts), it would be a good idea to participate first in helping others before you think about posting your own work. After you have been around here for awhile, then post something of your own for help. Good luck.
 

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Welcome Eldrich!
First of all, you have nothing to be embarrassed about. Perhaps it is not so much embarrassment as it is fear that readers will not like what they read? I feel that way sometimes, too. But then I think, even if one person likes what they read, I've done my job.
Second, stop thinking negatively! You said you will be submitting to a magazine "not because (you) have any illusion it'll be accepted." I am a big believer that if you are positive, positive things will come into your life. If you are not accepted, it's not the end of the world. It doesn't mean your writing was bad. I've never heard of a writer who didn't get rejected once, if not many times before finding the right person to take their work.
You have to have faith in your writing and make time for it before it can truly evolve. If your wife supports you, it will make things a bit easier, but all of the hard work comes from YOU. So go for it!
 

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Hello,
I get the embarrassment of writing. When people ask me what I do for a living I can't help hesitate. Why? Because it's so personal and it opens me up to a bunch of questions when I'm already feeling vulnerable. But, it's really rewarding, even after a few stinker reviews, it's just good to have work finished. Kudos to you for doing it.
 

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Hello and welcome, Eldrich.

Can't say I have ever been embarrassed about writing, I always considered it a very personal thing though. As in: I never really shared my writing before.

A year ago I took a creative writing class at a college here and there I had to share. Now, imagine me (being 45) among all of those students (average of 20)... Within one week I realized two things about myself: 1. I take writing very serious. 2. I don't take myself that serious.

After 3 weeks of listening to simpering 20-something girls writing about the woes of love "Oh where, oh where..." (<- for real!) I started writing poems for fun. Never wrote poetry before and I decided to just sit down and do it, not caring about the result. I figured, trying to do the best I can has to be enough. And it definitely was, although I'm not and never will be a poet.

So, why would something that you would love to do make you feel embarrassed? Because of what others might think about you? I believe you would probably be surprised about the reaction of those around you. Don't let anyone or anything discourage you. Ever.

You definitely found the right place here, so just be who you want to be.

Matchy

P.S. Well, being new to the forum myself, I really haven't posted all that much, so no, I haven't really shared my work yet. But maybe from one scholar to the other: a poem to make you feel better - a poem that people do not expect from a historian in her mid-forties:

Driving my car
Past a beach full of tar
Wondering how
The tar got so far

There can be no doubt
The fish spit it out
With unbridled rage
‘cause they can’t flush it out

They now swim much quicker
‘cause the water is slicker
They can’t be caught
Can y’all hear them snicker?

Deep down below
Where the oil still does flow
They sit and wait
For the next well to blow...

That was my first poem, the second one was about the Sham-Wow - and I'm dang proud of 'em...
Hope you feel good here and enjoy the board.
 
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Ah yes, embarrassed. I am still embarrassed at times, especially when I read truly captivating pieces! Welcome and good luck!
 

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You all are amazing! Thanks so much for the warm welcome.

MrsValkrie, I didn't mean to come off negative, as I'm definitely not. I am very happy and proud that I've made the steps I have made. I only wanted to convey that I'm realistic in that the magazine I have in mind is a pro mag and from the rudimentary research I've done, I know it would be a long shot. But if my story it not accepted, I will not take it as a detraction from my writing, but I just know I HAVE to submit to it first to fulfill my boyhood dream of doing so.

And Matchy, thanks so much for the poem! You should be proud of it! It takes a great playful look at such a serious topic.

Oh, and for the record, I like my popcorn very lightly buttered, and in addition to the ever so popular salt, I recently tried some with black pepper, and it was delicious. So that, as of now, is how I enjoy my popcorn.
 

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I'm new as well, and I can so relate to the notion that the submission alone would be so amazingly satisfying - just to have finished something to the point of being able to send it off would be a dream come true. I also had a lovely warm welcome to this message board. I think we've found a good spot to get our feet wet! :)
 

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Welcome! It's understandable to be embarrassed about your writing. I am kind of shy when it comes to showing others my writing too. I was buying some books on writing at Barnes and Noble and my dad introduced me to the cashier as "My daughter, the writer." I was so embarrassed it was unbelievable! Sometimes it's difficult to tell others (even people that you don't know) because you are worried about failure, comments, questions or their opinion on your story. Sorry that was kind of long-winded. Good luck and welcome to the forums. :)
 

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Welcome to AW. Glad to have you aboard.

I know how you are feeling. I too felt the same way.