When I was younger - OK, a lot younger - I knocked about a bit. Not that I was a stud or player mind you (low self-esteem issues), more the case that I was considered 'available'. If your boyfriend stood you up, or you wanted an excuse to break-up, or the guy you fancied at the party got off with someone else, or even just that it got to the end of the evening and you were feeling in the need for some company – well, ‘there’s always Martin’ (as I heard two of my female friends say). In retrospect I’d say there was only one occasion in which I deliberately removed myself from a social situation heading towards me spending the night with someone.
We’re not talking huge numbers here but it did mean I’ve had what could be termed a wide range of experiences, and occasionally I’ve used the sanitised version for inspiration in my other writing (outwith the Erotica genre).
So, is it wise to draw upon personal experiences verbatim, producing (thinly) fictionalised portrayals of sex scenes, or is it better to ‘mix and match’ in search of something more believable?
We’re not talking huge numbers here but it did mean I’ve had what could be termed a wide range of experiences, and occasionally I’ve used the sanitised version for inspiration in my other writing (outwith the Erotica genre).
So, is it wise to draw upon personal experiences verbatim, producing (thinly) fictionalised portrayals of sex scenes, or is it better to ‘mix and match’ in search of something more believable?
