Does it get any easier or does it just get harder

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I was almost asleep when my blackberry vibrated on the nightstand next to me. Earlier in the day yesterday, I had finally tracked down a couple in Cape Town that I dearly love. I have missed them so much and hadn't seen or heard from them in 6 years.

I know, six years, right? But it seems like I just saw them yesterday. So, I emailed them to see how they are doing and I got an email from the husband tonight so happy to hear from me. He was sorry to tell me that his wife, my dear sweet friend Molly has passed from breast cancer. He said he lost her five years ago.

Five years ago!!! How is it possible that she could be gone and I didn't know? It breaks my heart to know I never got to tell her just how wonderful she really was before she passed away.

I can't stand this. Time is just slipping from me these days and five years feels like five months. I keep thinking, with another friend telling me recently that she only has about three years to live that life is moving too quickly. I wonder, do we get used to this?
 

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No, we don't. But we continue to live and remember those we have loved and lost.
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It gets easier, but it takes time. I had something similar happen to me recently. It wasn't six years, more like two months, but a very, very dear friend of mine lost her husband. I consider them like family. The worst part is he missed seeing his third baby.

It's tough, really tough, but in time it will get easier. Just remember her and why you loved her.
 

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In the end of my first memoir I concluded that it was the things I loved that hurt me the most in life. I'd like to take the guy who said "It's better to have loved and lost.." and kick him in the nads.

I don't think it gets easier. For me it dulled.