a confession

aceinc1 said:

Hi all,

I have this confession to make. I have not been writing for a while now. Last year I wrote 14 scripts and this year I have written 1 ½ scripts and not directed a movie either. I want to opt out of filmmaking all together but I have been running for 9 years and there is a movement of inertia so bear with me for my few more posts unless a miracle happens and I don’t want the miracle to happen as I have a reason.

I was there for this conversation between my father and my uncle. My uncle asked him “what are you going to do with your son after his MBA is over?” My father replied,” I’m gonna see him married in a year.”this was nov 2007 and my father expired in dec 2007. I don’t want the same happen with my mother. I want her to be around to see me married. After seeing all the efforts to find a bride-could-be I realized how important it is to have father around.

I want to increase the chances of getting married within a year by taking a job on the basis of my MBA. So I want the job that could lead to the possibility of a well settled life with regular income and enough retirement funds. Although my mother claims she is willing to just keep me at home as she is 64 and pay me for staying with her. I, having recently come out of my second suicide attempt and now with a commitment to my mother, that I’ll live life till death comes to me and says it is time, want to put an effort and see through that my mum is there when I get married. I know that my father will bless me from heaven but I don’t both to be gone there.

I just wanted to share.

Regards,
Ace.Inc1

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Ace,

As I'm sure you know, I'm not one of the guys around here whose been particularly encouraging as to your chances of success and I won't go back on what I've said in that respect.

And I fully understand all of the pressures, personal, financial, family, and otherwise that come to bear on someone who goes down this road -- and even for the most talented, there's never any guarantee of success.

That being said, you shouldn't think that a decision to go into business or marry necessarily precludes following your passion as a writer or a movie maker.

I'm married. I've got two kids. And it's not as if I waited until I was a big success to do it. I was operating teleprompters for little more than minimum wage when I got married. After that, I ran the equipment room at NYU for low wages for six years -- which was when we had our two kids.

And it was during that time that I was writing and sending out screenplays and eventually made a sale that got me a job as a story editor working for a TV production company based in NY.

You have an MBA. Maybe this is something that you can put to use in the business that you're interested in. Certainly there's a big business side to things and working on the "other side" could only be to your advantage in the long run.

Or maybe this won't satisfy the concerns of your family. I don't know.

But even if you get work completely outside the business, that still won't keep you from writing. If your work is good enough, there's nothing that will keep it from selling, and if it sells for enough (as my work eventually did) -- there's nothing to keep you from quitting a job that you don't like and working full time doing something that you not only like better but which pays you better.

And if one script doesn't sell -- there's always the next. If you are really committed to it, then there's no reason to stop.

And who knows? Maybe you'll ultimately find that your passion lies somewhere else -- in a wife, in raising a family, in a business that you now know nothing about. That's how life goes.

One of my closest friends - the man who introduced me to my wife, started off as a China scholar, decided it wasn't for him, came to NYU to study film, he became a gaffer, worked at it for years, decided that wasn't for him, quit, went to law school, and now he works as a lawyer.

You simply have to be open to all the possibilities that life brings you. These are new doors opening for you. They can bring you new possibilities and I truly wish you all the best.

NMS

sounds like a good movie

Might be a good drama script

If you are unhappy with what you are doing then for your own sake do something else. I was an attorney and I was very unhappy. I still do a little legal writing but I gave up my law license. I got into screen writing because it makes me happy but I would never suggest it to someone who had grown discontented with it. Do what you love. Get married if you will. I have been married over 30 years and have a couple of great kids. . . Adults now. Good luck to you.