Can we talk about remittance men?

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Beginning in the Victorian era, sons could be banished by their wealthy titled or upper class families for drunkedness, gambling, womenizing and general dragging of the family name through the mud. Their families would send them a certain amount of money (remittance) each year as long as they agreed to move somewhere else (the US, Canada, Australia, etc.) and never darken the family door again.

As I understand it, this wasn't a legal action, but more along the lines of "go far, far away or you will be publicly disowned, no decent family will receive you, and you'll be cut off without a penny."

I have a couple of questions:

If it wasn't a legal agreement, was there anything other than honor that kept the family from not sending the remittance?

And was it usually a series of incidents that resulted in the banishment or could it be one explosive event?

(Yes, Under His Skirts is receiving a massive rewrite. Whee!!!!!)
 
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I have a couple of questions:

If it wasn't a legal agreement, was there anything other than honor that kept the family from not sending the remittance?

And was it usually a series of incidents that resulted in the banishment or could it be one explosive event?

Not familiar at all with the period (or the term remittance men, for that matter), but I would imagine...

...if it wasn't a legally binding agreement, I don't see any legal recourse to force the family to send the remittance. And even if there was, what of it? If the disgraced family member was in a different country, perhaps on a different continent, what could he do? I suppose go back and hassle the family, but that would be a violation of the terms, as well.

...as for what resulted in banishment, wouldn't that vary on a case-by-case basis? Look at modern families, and what leads to a son or such from being written out of a will. It varies. Sometimes it can be a slow buildup of things, other times it is, as you say, one explosive event.
 

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Tut tut!

A gentleman's agreement not kept! Tut! how could you think of anything so dishonourable, Doogs.

Of course if you didn't pay the blighter he might just return home to disgrace the entire family!

And from the ones I've read about it was a final episode in a string of events which usually saw the bloke off.

Although I do know of one bloke who got himself a remittance because he didn't want what the family wanted for him! He made a shocking display at his sister's wedding, so shocking he was packed off at once. He was sent to Australia but hated the climate and made NZ his home.
 

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OH YEAH! If I didn't get my cash, I would show up in drag with a hooker and a pair of twins in sparkly outfits... on Sunday, waiting on the porch for when the family came home from church.

I don't know how I would pay my hooker and my twins... or buy the dress, but I would be a resourceful chap, and find a way!
 

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I read a story based on actual charachters around 1800. This English fellow had been acused of raping a girl, a girl he did rape, and when the girl's father attempted to blackmail the fellow into either marrying the girl or going to the police, this fellows father paid him 2000 pounds, a lump sump, and sent him off to Australia because of the dishonor he had brought to the family. He was disowned that moment and the second son inherited all land ect in England.
 

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Thanks for the responses. The character being a remittance man is backstory only as he's gone on with his life in America but I like knowing that sort of thing, even if it never gets put on the page.