Bad friend = good writer?

scarletpeaches · Mar 4, 2009

About half an hour ago I got a call from a friend I was supposed to be going out with tomorrow.

No, wait. A friend with whom I was supposed to be going out.

Hang on.

A friend with whom out I was supposed to be going.

Anyway. They cancelled because there's a problem with work they're having done on their house and instead of saying, "Is there anything I can help you with?" my first thought was, "Yay! I don't have to get up early which means I can stay up late working on my WIP and talking to Lori on MSN!"

My second thought was, "Mmm. This rhubarb crumble's delish." But that has nothing much to do with anything.

Anyway. Have you ever thought or said anything that meant you put your writing before those pesky things known as 'social lives'?

Cranky · Mar 4, 2009

Huh? Social life? What's that?

firedrake · Mar 4, 2009

scarletpeaches said:
About half an hour ago I got a call from a friend I was supposed to be going out with tomorrow.

No, wait. A friend with whom I was supposed to be going out.

Hang on.

A friend with whom out I was supposed to be going.

Anyway. They cancelled because there's a problem with work they're having done on their house and instead of saying, "Is there anything I can help you with?" my first thought was, "Yay! I don't have to get up early which means I can stay up late working on my WIP and talking to Lori on MSN!"

My second thought was, "Mmm. This rhubarb crumble's delish." But that has nothing much to do with anything.

Anyway. Have you ever thought or said anything that meant you put your writing before those pesky things known as 'social lives'?

All the time.

What is this "social life" you talk about?

popbunny · Mar 4, 2009

All the time! I pester my husband everyday now. "Are you sure you don't have hockey tonight? None of your friends want to go for a beer?" Him heading out for the evening means once the kiddies are in bed I can cuddle in bed and write to my heart's content without him bugging me to come watch tv, play cards, etc. Every other wife on the team hates their husband heading out for the night - I managed to get him on a third team this year!

scarletpeaches · Mar 4, 2009

Cranky said:
Huh? Social life? What's that?

firedrake said:
All the time.

What is this "social life" you talk about?

I think it's when 'normal' people prefer talking to 'real' folks instead of telling tales about the voices in their head. Maybe? I dunno... :Shrug:

Ms Hollands · Mar 4, 2009

I would like some rhubarb crumble.

scarletpeaches · Mar 4, 2009

*burp*

Sorry. Too late.

Cranky · Mar 4, 2009

April Hollands said:
I would like some rhubarb crumble.

I've got some apple crumble. Srsly.

Cranky · Mar 4, 2009

scarletpeaches said:
I think it's when 'normal' people prefer talking to 'real' folks instead of telling tales about the voices in their head. Maybe? I dunno...

I think it has something to do with going places with flesh-and-blood people and doing..."stuff". Like what, I don't know, really.

I have vague recollections of things like movie theaters, dinners out, pool tables, and dance clubs. But they might've been just my imagination.

firedrake · Mar 4, 2009

Cranky said:
I think it has something to do with going places with flesh-and-blood people and doing..."stuff". Like what, I don't know, really.

I have vague recollections of things like movie theaters, dinners out, pool tables, and dance clubs. But they might've been just my imagination.

restaurants, I remember these places called restaurants where you got to eat stuff that other people cooked for you.

scarletpeaches · Mar 4, 2009

I've turned down cinema dates (not just with men, I mean with girlfriends and casual acquaintances) because I prefer to go on my own. Really. I do.

Cinemas recharge my creative batteries and I feel like if someone else is there, I have to...ack...talk to them and be all nice and stuff.

Cranky · Mar 4, 2009

scarletpeaches said:
I've turned down cinema dates (not just with men, I mean with girlfriends and casual acquaintances) because I prefer to go on my own. Really. I do.

Cinemas recharge my creative batteries and I feel like if someone else is there, I have to...ack...talk to them and be all nice and stuff.

Netflix.

Cranky · Mar 4, 2009

firedrake said:
restaurants, I remember these places called restaurants where you got to eat stuff that other people cooked for you.

Fancy that!

Bubastes · Mar 4, 2009

Cranky said:
I think it has something to do with going places with flesh-and-blood people and doing..."stuff". Like what, I don't know, really.

People? What are these "people" of whom you speak?

DeleyanLee · Mar 4, 2009

firedrake said:
restaurants, I remember these places called restaurants where you got to eat stuff that other people cooked for you.

And they do the dishes for you too. That's the part I really like.

heyjude · Mar 4, 2009

popbunny said:
All the time! I pester my husband everyday now. "Are you sure you don't have hockey tonight? None of your friends want to go for a beer?" Him heading out for the evening means once the kiddies are in bed I can cuddle in bed and write to my heart's content without him bugging me to come watch tv, play cards, etc. Every other wife on the team hates their husband heading out for the night - I managed to get him on a third team this year!

I'm so stealing this idea...

Ken · Mar 4, 2009

...I can relate.

Ms Hollands · Mar 4, 2009

scarletpeaches said:
I've turned down cinema dates (not just with men, I mean with girlfriends and casual acquaintances) because I prefer to go on my own. Really. I do.

Cinemas recharge my creative batteries and I feel like if someone else is there, I have to...ack...talk to them and be all nice and stuff.

It's not as if you can even talk in movies, so I'm totally with you on going by yourself. It also means you don't have anyone else's hands—which probably haven't been washed after peeing—digging into your salted popcorn. And also no debates about why sugared popcorn is believed by some fools to be better.

I have the remnants of this mountain cake in the fridge. Chocolate layer on the bottom, banana on top. With cream cheese frosting....it tastes better than it looks...

Shadow_Ferret · Mar 4, 2009

scarletpeaches said:
Anyway. Have you ever thought or said anything that meant you put your writing before those pesky things known as 'social lives'?

I have children. I have neither a social life nor a writing life.

James81 · Mar 4, 2009

scarletpeaches said:
I've turned down cinema dates (not just with men, I mean with girlfriends and casual acquaintances) because I prefer to go on my own. Really. I do.

Cinemas recharge my creative batteries and I feel like if someone else is there, I have to...ack...talk to them and be all nice and stuff.

I don't care what people say, going to the movies isn't a social activity anyway. Yet people freak out if they don't have someone to go to the movies with, and then they try and make others feel "insecure" about it if they go alone.

I'm usually just like, whatever. I go to the movies to watch the damn movie. Having someone sit silently next to me in the dark isn't my idea of the ideal social interaction. Not that it's bad to have someone with me, but I really don't mind in the slightest to go alone, and usually do.

I reserve time with friends/girls for more fun, active stuff where you can...you know, actually interact with the person you are with.

CheshireCat · Mar 4, 2009

scarletpeaches said:
Cinemas recharge my creative batteries and I feel like if someone else is there, I have to...ack...talk to them and be all nice and stuff.

Glad to know I'm not the only one who feels this way.

I also hate sitting shoulder-to-shoulder with strangers in theaters -- though I can stand it better in a live theater than in a movie theater.

Biggest gripe, of course, is to have someone sitting behind me who either has to comment throughout the movie or explain the plot to a companion.

Cranky · Mar 4, 2009

CheshireCat said:
Glad to know I'm not the only one who feels this way.

I also hate sitting shoulder-to-shoulder with strangers in theaters -- though I can stand it better in a live theater than in a movie theater.

Biggest gripe, of course, is to have someone sitting behind me who either has to comment throughout the movie or explain the plot to a companion.

Oh gawd. Or keeps their cellphone on, so they can yammer about something else (or the movie) during the show.

C.M.C. · Mar 4, 2009

Like I always say, people are overrated.

dgrintalis · Mar 4, 2009

I prefer animals to people. They are far less irritating.

Amarie · Mar 4, 2009

I've always loved the quote attributed to Dorothy Parker about what she said when the doorbell rang:

"What fresh hell is this?"

Bad friend = good writer?

scarletpeaches

Cranky

firedrake

practical experience, FTW

popbunny

scarletpeaches

Ms Hollands

Cow lover

scarletpeaches

Cranky

Cranky

firedrake

practical experience, FTW

scarletpeaches

Cranky

Cranky

Bubastes

bananaed

DeleyanLee

Writing Anarchist

heyjude

Making my own sunshine

Ken

Ms Hollands

Cow lover

Shadow_Ferret

Court Jester

James81

Great Scott Member

CheshireCat

Mostly purring. Mostly.

Cranky

C.M.C.

Archetype

dgrintalis

'Tis true, she is a monstergirl

Amarie

carpe libri