Patrick Bhaldwraithe:
How many replies can I expect from 10 queries?
How long is a piece of string?
How many miles must a man walk to find out that he's a man?
How much wood must a woodchuck chop if a woodchuck could chop wood?
There's no answer to this. If your story resonates with an agent, they'll respond. If it doesn't, then they won't. The key is not to go in with any expectations. Once you've sent off the query, forget about it for 3 months (or such other period as the agency specifies is their usual turn-around time).
Patrick Bhaldwraithe:
I established an email relationship with one agent but, she "doesn't get anything from my stories." I take it to mean that she wants some big finishes.
No, the agent doesn't mean that she wants some big finishes. She means that she doesn't want your book. I'm sorry that's harsh, but "doesn't get anything from my stories" is no different to "sorry, this isn't for me" or "this isn't right for my list at my time". All it is, is a polite no. Don't waste time and emotional energy trying to decipher some kind of hidden meaning from it. If she'd wanted to give you some advice on how to improve it/change it, she'd have told you straight (that's known as a "good rejection" because it means you have something concrete to take from it).
What you can do is take another look at your manuscript and see if, with the time that's passed, you can see any other changes you need to make to it. If so, make those changes. Alternatively, you could try running the manuscript past other people to see what they think. Or you could try running your query past people to see if it can be improved. Or you can just go to the next batch of agents on your list.
Patrick Bhaldwraithe:
Most people who write about agents say that they are impatient, rude, and unforgiving.
My guess is that those people are the ones who haven't got an agent or have fallen for a 'bad' or 'scam' agent. Best advice? Ignore those people.
There are quite a few people here on AW who have legitimate agents (and it's okay to hate those people - I know I do

). Legitimate agents behave in a professional manner. Now, sometimes authors and agents have a parting of ways - whether for professional reasons or because the personality gel isn't there - but I can honestly say that those I know who have agents speak very highly of their experience.
Patrick Bhaldwraithe:
I have an agent that is responing to all of my questions.
Then you're very lucky that the agent is taking the time to do so. Just make sure that your questions don't become pestering.
Patrick Bhaldwraithe:
As for the advice to self-publish. Tell your agent how horrible I am All press is good press.
No. Contrary to popular belief, not all press is good press. Please do not try to imply that anyone here on AW is going to slag you off to their agent.
The advice to self-publish was honest advice given in good faith given the views that you expressed as to the commercial industry. If you've decided that you still want to go down the commercial industry route then good luck with it. But please don't suggest that people are giving you advice in order to try and thwart your ambitions.
Patrick Bhaldwraithe:
You are all writers. It's the ending that people don't want to hear too soon. We read books because we like the title, the cover, the idea. We may fall in love with the language and various things inbetween. But the lesson is at the end.
Not necessarily. Not every book has to have a lesson or a moral or a message to it, and if it doesn, then that lesson/moral/message can be buried within the text rather than erected at the end.
Patrick Bhaldwraithe:
If the agent does not send a "no" response. How often should I, may I query without tarnishing my name with the agent? I imagine they read the subject headings first. So, the idea needs to be there. Is there an answer to this question?
Do you mean follow up on the original query or send a new one out? If it's a follow-up, see further up in my comment because it's usually 3 months or however long the agency specifies. If you're querying for a new book, I'd say give it a couple of months before going back to that agent unless they've specifically said that they want to see any new material that you've got.
MM