Am I right to be annoyed?

seun · Nov 22, 2007

My eighteen year old nephew stayed over last Friday night. He left before I got up. A couple of hours later, I noticed several of my dvds were missing so I text him to ask if he 'borrowed' any. He said he had and forgot to tell me.

So, am I right to be annoyed he took a number of my films without asking or do I just figure he's eighteen, he's an idiot and not worry about it?

Bmwhtly · Nov 22, 2007

yup, you're right.

tjwriter · Nov 22, 2007

You need to call him out on it. Borrowing without asking is stealing. It doesn't matter whether or not he 'forgot'.

If someone doesn't start teaching him accountability right now, he'll never learn. He has to be responsible for his own actions.

Voyager · Nov 22, 2007

Was it the good porn? If so, he must be destroyed

eodmatt · Nov 22, 2007

Yes you are right. Your next step must be to explain to him, in reasonable tones, that taking things without permission shows a serious lack of respect for other people. And if he doesn't accept that, beat the crap out of him.

seun · Nov 22, 2007

Voyager said:
Was it the good porn? If so, he must be destroyed

Alas, one of the films was Dawn Of The Dead which REALLY pissed me off. Nobody messes with my zombie films. :rant:

I'll have a word with my sister. She's much scarier than I am.

poetinahat · Nov 22, 2007

Uh, people don't 'borrow and forget to tell'. That's weak.

Besides, being annoyed is always the best plan. Keep people feeling like they owe you one!

eodmatt · Nov 22, 2007

I'd have been very annoyed if it was my copy of Shaun of the Dead!

Bmwhtly · Nov 22, 2007

seun said:
Alas, one of the films was Dawn Of The Dead.

original or remake?

seun · Nov 22, 2007

Bmwhtly said:
original or remake?

Original. It's all about the bright orange blood and blue zombies.

Bmwhtly · Nov 22, 2007

seun said:
Original.

In that case, I'd have the little ****er arrested.

In fact, I'd call for the death penalty.

seun · Nov 22, 2007

The problem is I have a lot of films so it's hard to see what's missing other than DOTD, The Descent and at least three others. My sister-in-law borrowed three but the difference is she asked. If he had asked, I wouldn't care he had them (although I'd want DOTD back within 24 hours).

Bmwhtly · Nov 22, 2007

Dawn and The Descent?

Well, at least he's got taste I suppose.

dpaterso · Nov 22, 2007

If my nephew had done that I wouldn't be bothered in the slightest, but that's just me. I know he'd return them, not sell them down the pub. Maybe yours would have remembered to tell you, only you texted him before he could?

Of course, at 18 he should have had enough sense and good manners to ask you first. Maybe he'll learn from this. On the one hand you'd like him to behave like an adult, on the other hand you're going to tell his mum.

-Derek

KTC · Nov 22, 2007

At that age, everything is theirs. I would be annoyed, but I wouldn't be surprised. At least he didn't say, "No...what are you talking about?" There's a difference between, "I can borrow whatever I want" and, "Hey cool, I just got me some new DVDs!"

Tell him not to take without asking again...or at least leaving a note if he's taking when you're not there. Chalk it up to finding out teenagers are so self-obsessed that they think they're doing us favours when they borrow our stuff without asking.

eodmatt · Nov 22, 2007

And then beat the crap out of him.

seun · Nov 22, 2007

dpaterso said:
If On the one hand you'd like him to behave like an adult, on the other hand you're going to tell his mum.

-Derek

Believe me, a bollocking from my sister and he won't do it again. If that saves him from doing the same thing with someone else who might deck him for it, that's OK with me.

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