Nowhere Near My Points
Plenty of people here are also working on the positive side - rebuilding the shattered self-esteem of PA victims and helping them to move on. I don't think any of us are trying to put down those who are trying to build up PA authors. If you poke around in the threads, you'll see plenty of that. We support the writers even as we battle the publisher scammer. I think the reason why people reacted a bit huffy to you was that it seemed as if your posts were pushing the idea that the only way we should react to PA was by ignoring it and instead focusing on the positive. I'm not sure if this is what you intended, but it kind of sounded that way and of course you can see why people would react badly if they felt they were being told to ignore their own opinions.
In fact, if you truly support the idea of each person following their own guidance, then it seems that you should not be upset at those who actively pursue the route of highlighting Publish America's betrayals. The fact that certain others are not following your route of focusing on the positive and ignoring the negative does not impede your own actions in any way. You can certainly continue to focus on the positive while ignoring the negative, and I wholeheartedly agree that this can be an important tactic at times, helping with the healing. However, it is only to be expected that a section of a message board devoted to warnings about a particular scam should continue to highlight the tactics of that scam as long as the scam exists. If this Publish America section stopped talking about the bad things, the number of victims would multiply enormously.
Of course, Absolute Write is a huge message board, and the Publish America section is only a tiny segment of the whole. If your chosen route for now is to concentrate on positive aspects of building yourself up as a writer and ignore Publish America, then it would probably be best to avoid most of the threads in the Publish America section, as they'll probably only irritate you.
I'm sorry that statements here rubbed you the wrong way, and I hope you'll stay at Absolute Write. I can certainly see why you might want to avoid distressing news, as sometimes it can be too disheartening to read. It is like some people who stop reading the news because of all the crimes and violence reported and become much happier - more power to them. But that doesn't mean that crimes and violence should be kept out of the news entirely, let alone mean that the police should start ignoring them.
I expressed my anger and gave it a few words a spotlight and the rest put all my energies into positive about my work. PA has nothing to do with that and it seems here, on my thread, some words led to PA authors and poor writing. I am trying to just bring that to light as one should be careful on what they say by making their PA points. Yes, it is hard to distinguish when they are so horrible yet at the same time, point being, it further more puts down the author for no reason. Here, let me re-word it for you:
FOR Unhappy PA Authors, Not FOR PA! Better?????
You should warn others about anything horrible but you are also responsible for helping them in other ways. A warning is the first step, then how do you move on from that: whether it is to try and stop them, spread the warning to others, lift them up in their next project and so on.
It is very one way here and I don't agree with you as it is more agenda oriented and so where
I do agree with you, is no-one here should visit unless it is about ways to stop PA and whatever stories lay behind that. My mistake. There are those here who are positive, I know that as they have written to me but overall, the feeling is towards the other end and
I understand that as well. I am NOT debating that, I am trying to help. I know I help many people with my conversations in my own life and for you to read into me as ignoring is inaccurate. In this case, my positive here comes from something negative that occurred.
That is the point my friend. Where did I say ignore PA?
I have seen a lot as my father has raised us in an environment for which I can speak about. I guess my letter to O'Reilly and my remarks about my own discontent aren't enough to really make you feel that I don't feel bad enough about my dealings with PA. I did get a thank you from Ms. Pacha about that letter as it is the only way I know for ME.
Like I said, there is nothing wrong with trying to pick yourself up and move on. I never said stop fighting the fight. Did you even read my letter to Fox News? Let me tell you something, and this goes for the rest of you who have been snarky with me, I am a fighter, a typical Arian hot off the press, steaming quick tempered person. E-mail's do not have tones and one should never read into them and assume anything like a real phone or in person conversation.
Having said that, I am not offended by anyone here or take it personally. So, I am still keeping with my better outlook on even taking a chance and responding here. It actually makes me laugh. I am still better for it as I have seen too many people wallow over many bad choices in their life, and they are suffering. I have my own battle against PA.
IMO:
Be cautious when responding to one and make sure you read their comments carefully and sometimes twice.
All I have said was yes PA is this, yes, it happened to me and now what can the author do about it,
personally? PA is a two way street. Their way of ruining the author and putting a bad name on the industry taking their money; and secondly, there is the author's way on how the hell to recoup their losses and not allow PA to ruin them, personally. MMM, no room for that I suppose on the PA topic according to your response to me.
I just am not hearing an intelligent retort as what the heck is wrong about helping a PA author to move on, which includes fighting them as well. Just try not to be so nasty about it and assume if one comes here and doesn't bash, that they are for PA or ignoring PA.
You don't know me or any of the battles I have fought including almost losing my first child so back your truck up as I know the important things in my life. And this, my friend, doesn't even come close.
I hope you come up with the magical formula to change PA's ways because that is what is needed.
Nothing has rubbed me anyway unless it is my husband, thank you very much, and what I am doing here is trying to still get a point across which obviously is falling in-between the PA cracks. Some get it, the others just aren't that pleasant and will not get it. I would never win
that battle and so I won't even try.
I do not intend to leave the water cooler as I contributed and support other forums here. I am just done with this one is all. Sorry if I have offended you in any way.
Later and best to you as always.
Alexandra