Quote Originally Posted by PyriteFool View Post
I totally get struggling, though. I’m a bi woman married to a straight man. I constantly question whether I’m “queer enough” but at the end of the day, I want the queer community to be as welcoming as possible. Long story short, everyone’s experience is unique, and so long as you are conscientious and compassionate, I think you will be fine.
I'm bi and currently single but I have kids and an ex husband. Bi invisibility is a thing because people aren't really that aware of it and will just default you to your current or most recent relationship. When I was younger everyone assumed I was gay based on how I dressed (I'm not very gender conforming) but these days everyone seems to assume that I'm straight purely because I have kids. People just assume. Own voices from bi writers - whatever kind of relationship they're in - will help to increase visibility and stop people from making assumptions.