It's Pride Month: Who Wants To Harm You?

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The everyday absurdities and atrocities of the world we live in and the hell we've made it tends to make the news fade to black quicker than ever before.

There is simply so much bad news. Missing kids who are either found dead or not at all. Record levels of carbon dioxide in the air.

June is Pride Month. In London it was observed by a gang of men who attacked a couple for refusing to put on a show for them and kiss each other.

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Uruguay national Melania Geymonat, 28, posted a photo showing the aftermath of the assault in which she and her American girlfriend Chris are covered in blood following the attack in the early hours of May 30 in the English capital.


Geymonat uploaded the photo to Facebook along with a lengthy caption detailing the attack and calling for an end to "chauvinist, misogynistic and homophobic violence."


She described how she and Chris were on the late night bus traveling to the Camden area of London after the pair had been on a date. Geymonat said the group of men must have come over to them on the bus after they had spotted them kissing.


"There were at least four of them," Geymonat said. "They started behaving like hooligans, demanding that we kissed so they could enjoy watching, calling us 'lesbians' and describing sexual positions. I don't remember the whole episode, but the word 'scissors' stuck in my mind."


Geymonat said she started joking with the men in an attempt to calm the situation and her girlfriend pretended to be sick so they would leave them alone.


"But they kept on harassing us, throwing us coins and becoming more enthusiastic about it," she added. "The next thing I know is that Chris is in the middle of the bus fighting with them.


"On an impulse, I went over there only to find her face bleeding and three of them beating her up. The next thing I know is I'm being punched. I got dizzy at the sight of my blood and fell back. I don't remember whether or not I lost consciousness. Suddenly the bus had stopped, the police were there and I was bleeding all over."


Geymonat said the couple were both robbed of their possessions during the attack. She decided to post the photo of their injuries while venting her frustrations at how common such homophobic attacks are.


"I'm tired of being taken as a sexual object, of finding out that these situations are usual, of gay friends who were beaten up just because. We have to endure verbal harassment and chauvinist, misogynistic and homophobic violence because when you stand up for yourself s**t like this happens," she wrote. "I just hope that in June, Pride Month, stuff like this can be spoken out loudly so they stop happening."



As Pride Month begins, here's how it is being observed in its opening week


The mayor of a rural Alabama town is refusing to step down after his comments about "killing" members of the LGBTQ community made national headlines.

Carbon Hill Mayor Mark Chambers told the Daily Mountain Eagle, a local newspaper, in an interview Tuesday that "he did not intend to resign." During a city council meeting Tuesday evening, local politicians formally asked for the mayor's resignation, according to Birmingham TV station WSFA.


In a now-deleted Facebook post, Chambers wrote in all capital letters: "We live in a society where homosexuals lecture us on morals, transvestites lecture us on human biology, baby killers lecture us on human rights and socialists lecture us on economics!"

In a subsequent comment, the mayor wrote: "The only way to change it would be to kill the problem out. I know it's bad to say but with out [sic] killing them out there's no way to fix it."

Killing the gays is a popular idea among the homophobic.


Republican state Rep. Mike Hill of Pensacola joked and laughed about a constituent’s comment that gay people should be put to death, according to the Pensacola News Journal, drawing harsh backlash against Hill from across the state on Friday.

According to a News Journal transcript of the audio recording, which the paper said was released by Women for Responsible Legislation, someone at the May 23 meeting at Pensacola City Hall said to Hill, “In 1 Corinthians, it says that a man who has an affair with another man will be put to death.”

Hill replied, “It says that in the Old Testament, too.” Another attendee then asked, “Can you introduce legislation?”

There is some laughter, and Hill finally replied, “I wonder how that would go over?”

Condemnations poured in from across Florida, from sources ranging from his hometown newspaper to Republican leadership to Democratic state Rep. Carlos Guillermo Smith, one of three openly-gay Florida lawmakers.

Hill did not respond to an inquiry to his office from Florida Politics. But he did respond to Smith.

“Fake news, Carlos! And you know it. I never said I wanted to kill anyone! Instead, I am being attacked because I have made a strong stand to protect the preborn in the womb,” Hill tweeted at Smith late Friday.

That’s not quite addressing the concerns raised around the state.

Republican Party of Florida chairman Joe Gruters, also a state Senator from Sarasota, issued a statement declaring, “I am horrified by what I just heard, hate of any kind cannot be tolerated, Mike Hill should immediately apologize.”

Vile hate speech by jack-ass politicians is one thing, but the murder of transgender women by predators is another.

Last Saturday a young transgender woman's body was found in a lake in Dallas, Texas. The police identified her as 26-year-old Chynal Lindsey shortly afterwards.


It was later confirmed that Ms Lindsey had been killed - city police chief U Reneé Hall told reporters two days later that her body had exhibited "obvious signs of homicidal violence".


Such killings are not uncommon. Ms Lindsey was the second black trans woman in Dallas to be killed within the last three weeks, and the third over the past year.


Asked whether it was possible a serial killer was targeting these women, Ms Reneé Hall said that "right now, we don't have the evidence to substantiate that", but urged members of the trans community to "stay vigilant". Because of the scale of the problem, she added, the department has asked the FBI for assistance.


Whether or not a serial killer is behind the attacks, Chynal's death has highlighted an insidious truth - that trans women of colour in the US are disproportionately at risk of being killed.


On 18 May, 23-year-old trans woman Muhlaysia Booker was found dead on a street near a golf course in Dallas, having been fatally shot. Her death came a month after a group of men attacked her, filmed it, and posted the footage on social media.


In October last year the body of Brittany White, 29, was found in a parked car in the city, with fatal gunshot wounds.

Two earlier deaths of trans women of colour in Dallas have yet to be solved, too - that of Shade Schuler in 2015, and of an unidentified trans woman in 2017, who was found in the same lake as Chynal.


And a non-fatal attack in April this year, in which a trans woman survived being repeatedly stabbed and left for dead, is also being investigated by Dallas police.


According to Human Rights Campaign (HRC), an LGBTQI+ civil rights group, it's not just a Dallas issue - it's a problem across the US. Across the country, 82% of the transgender people killed last year were women of colour.


The Trans Murder Monitoring project says that in the decade between January 2008 and September 2018, a total of 2,982 trans people were killed worldwide.


"There is an epidemic of violence that is targeting the transgender community, particularly transgender women of colour, here in the United States," Sarah McBride, from HRC, tells the BBC.


"Transgender women of colour already face disproportionate rates of discrimination, of poverty, of homelessness - all factors that contribute to being at greater risk of violence. We know that when transphobia mixes with misogyny and racism, the consequences can oftentimes be deadly."

Be Proud, But Be Careful. You have reasons to fear for your very life.
 

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I'm just outside Boston, where a neo Nazi has gotten permission for what I am calling the Incel Bigot Parade and they are calling Straight Pride, which I didn't want to type. If there's a protest I'm going try to try to go, but this time, unlike the last neo Nazi rally in my town (where 45,000 people outnumbered the handful of cowering Nazis) I expect violence. Not from us, but from them. There's no consensus yet about whether or not there will be a counter-protest or if consensus is that it's better to ignore them. It's always been dangerous to be LGBTQ or a person of color in this country, but I feel like things are especially explosive right now. That's more likely not less to make me want to be there in the people they're targeting feel we need to show up and outnumber them, but I fear for any LGBTQ person or anyone there to support them.

We don't want them here, but apparently the city couldn't deny them the permit.
 

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How do these people get a parade? What have they ever done to be proud of?
Have they stood strong in the face of violence and prejudice? (No, but they've caused plenty of it.)
Have they carved out lived for themselves in the face of opposition? (No, see note above)
Have they been supported and been allies for other marginalized groups in their struggles? (No, see note above.)

Not only do they not deserve a parade, they should be the guys who walk behind the horses in other parades, sweeping up the droppings to add to their collection.
 

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Not only do they not deserve a parade, they should be the guys who walk behind the horses in other parades, sweeping up the droppings to add to their collection.

When I was in college, they'd have "gay days" now and then - Pride on a smaller scale.

And there was one year (probably more, but there was one I heard about) when a few girls tried to organize "straight days," because hey, if gay people can be proud of their sexual orientation, why can't we?

It was eye-rollingly stupid, and the response they got was largely derision. But there were a few people, including some I otherwise respected, who bristled and said "They're right. Why shouldn't it be OK to crow about how wonderful being straight is?" Because it honestly had never occurred to them that every damn day in our society is crowing-about-being-straight day. Some of them figured it out (we spent a lot of time arguing in college, and a lot of people honestly changed their minds), but not all.

Today, of course, we've arrived at the explicit intersection of homophobia/misogyny/white supremacy, and it's almost certain that someone who says "Why can't I be proud as well?" is going to be suffering from all three of those ailments.

As for the permit: I suspect the city felt they had no legal reason to deny them. Personally, I'm hoping it ends up more or less like this one did. I can tell you that the Boston Pride parade has been, every year I've seen it, a packed event of raucous good cheer, and I doubt very strongly this parade will elicit the same kind of good will from the residents.
 

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When I was in college, they'd have "gay days" now and then - Pride on a smaller scale.

And there was one year (probably more, but there was one I heard about) when a few girls tried to organize "straight days," because hey, if gay people can be proud of their sexual orientation, why can't we?

Yeah, it's a thing. Some interesting responses here.

Meanwhile it's probably not safe for same-sex couples to hold hands in public most places.
 
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Opinion on what to do about the neoNazis coming to town is split, but activists who organized the last counter-protest, which 45,000 people attended, have announced another. I am taking my cue from people in the communities they're targeting, so I don't know yet what's going to happen. I feel like as a white privileged person, I have to be there if there's a response. If there's going to be one, it needs to be well-attended.
 

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I am appalled every time I see swastikas flying over American soil. And, right after the anniversary of D-Day. If anyone near a military cemetary has felt the ground shake, it's the dead, rolling over in their graves.
 

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Over on Facebook, a woman who calls herself a Christian had the nerve to say that the idea somebody doesn't want the light of God in their lives is "stupid". People jumped on her for other points on a QUILTBAG discussion, and she claimed butthurt over being called "ignorant" and couldn't understand WHY people were getting so upset because she only pointed out she believes being gay is a sin! She only wanted to engage in discussion! She couldn't understand why I left a church that wants to see me dead or disappeared when it's ruled over by a "loving" "God" and needed specifics. I came right out and told her I wouldn't engage with somebody who calls my belief system "stupid" when it doesn't agree with hers.
 

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The whole world is on edge. I couldn't make the DC Pride Parade this year, which ended in a stampede when false reports of shots fired caused a panic. Many of my friends were about three blocks away and ran when they saw everyone else running. I can't imagine their terror for something, one of them said, all of us expected to happen. The fact that we all at some level expected it is wrong wrong wrong.
 

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I'm skipping Pride out of self-preservation but it's more along the lines of "I can't deal" rather than the sucky state of the world around me. I would've needed to have surprised myself with an affirmative decision on May 1st in order to properly psyche myself and quell the social anxiety issues and have enough time to chicken out if need be, and the parade's on June 23. The Day Job™ has a contingent again this year but...I can't deal. Lately, I can't decide if I'm going to the writing studio space I rent without inducing a major trauma fit.
 

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Yeah, it's a thing. Some interesting responses here.

Meanwhile it's probably not safe for same-sex couples to hold hands in public most places.

There's a lot of that about.

Last summer the wife and I were in Cleveland for a concert and a visit to the Rock n' Roll Hall of Fame. It was also Pride Day and on the lakefront there were so many young, middle-aged, and old folks all gathered to put a little sunshine on their face and hold hands, flirt, kiss, hug, and just be their own authentic selves. By the docks there were a half-dozen Black women utilizing the placid setting as a backdrop for a fashion photo session.

They were laughing and instructing and posing and having a gay old time. No fucks were given by those sistas that day at the stares and gawks and male gazes cast their way. It was all about the female gaze and it was for each other, not the rubberneckers.

I try to imagine how that day would have played out if a bunch of Neo-Nazis had been there. Probably not well---for them. I just don't understand. Why can't these men (and it is always men) mind their own business and leave the rest of us outta their bullshit?
 

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Pride in Columbus falls on the same week as Origins, so my ace butt will be there in support.
 

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Pride was on Sunday here in Albany. I had to work all day, so I couldn't attend. My girlfriend went though. By all accounts it was a fine day. No Nazis. No Terfs. It's a pretty small and progressive town though. Small enough that I've waited on Gov. Cuomo a couple of times at work.
 

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...Why can't these men (and it is always men) mind their own business and leave the rest of us outta their bullshit?

Because their tiny little brains are threatened by every damn thing they see and hear that is minutely different than they are. And it brings out their Neanderthal instincts.
 

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June 24 marks the anniversary of the UpStairs Lounge Massacre. In 1973, a popular gay bar in New Orleans was torched and 32 people killed as a result of its upstairs location and lack of adequate fire exits, making it the worst QUILTBAG mass murder until the Pulse Nightclub shootings. One of the victim's family was never notified; they only found out what happened to him in 2015 by a chance Google search. After the ABC network in the US ran a documentary on the disaster in 2018, Mayor LaToya Cantrell tasked staff members to search for his remains for a proper military burial by his family (video autoplay warning).

Four other victims were buried in unmarked pauper graves. One of them, Larry N. Frost, was only just identified in 2018.

It was considered a horrible tragedy until the authorities found out it was one of "those" places.

They'd even gotten several solid leads on a suspect, which weren't pursued, natch. It was even joked about by talk show hosts in the city the next day.

Where are they gonna bury them? In fruit jars.

G'hyuck.

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This is my heritage.

These are my siblings.
 

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An older friend of mine knew a guy who'd been in the UpStairs Lounge massacre. I didn't know that had happened until she posted a quick memorial. The scanned newspaper I found in a search included black-and-white photographs.

The burned corpse of a man stuck in a window he'd tried to escape through is stuck near the surface of my memory. I later read that his boyfriend had tried running back into the fire for him.

The connection between that attack and the riots are incredibly important. The way the police previously treated the club goers and the response to the emergency calls for help remain horribly relevant today.

Speaking of, I'm shaking from today's news. A Baptist pastor who's also a police detective in Tennessee told his congregation how municipal and federal governments in the U.S. should execute LGBTQ people and our allies.

Link: https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/us/t...alls-for-execution-of-lgbtq-people/ar-AACMORv

A few years ago in Colorado, someone posted signs around my city that were photocopies of regular printing paper. The text was tiny and filled up each page. There were four pages. Half of the text was a rant about the supposed sins and dangers of "the homosexuals", along with a threat to shoot people at the upcoming Pride festival. The other half raved against the police.

I saw these signs up on the bus shelters while I was running errands with my preschooler--who I'd been considering taking to the the family-oriented Pride festival organized by our neighbors. I was terrified. I felt sick waiting for the bus. Then the anger kicked in. I tore the papers off the shelter, took photos, then carried them on the bus. We went farther on the bus than planned so we could go into the police headquarters to turn those pages in.

The women behind the safety glass glanced at the papers, told me her department was already aware, and attempted to reassure me when I mentioned I was concerned. "Don't worry. Our officers will protect themselves."

The officers. She saw me and my child and assumed that all we cared about was aggression against the police. Up until that moment, I'd believed my city's police department cared about my family's safety in public.

We ended up skipping our own city's Pride event and went to Denver's parade. Denver Police Department had announced that they were watching for threats and would be prepared to deal with the public safety of Pride participants.

We might've been safe downtown in our city that year, but I couldn't trust we would be. My neighbors, including a church leader and an attorney, had been facing threats of violence since they'd started the annual festival. When police don't show public support, it's too easy to wonder how the department is quietly resistant.

Where I live now, we don't have Pride events. I've been afraid to suggest one. I'm wary of the police, who have been kind in casual encounters but might not know my family is queer. We haven't been able to confirm which local laws specifically target me. We've faced discrimination for gender and sexual orientation at the hospital, so where could I go in an emergency? What would emeegency responders do? The odds of additional harm feels high.
 
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Who You Gonna Call? Not THIS Guy!

This should fall under the category of "Conflict of Interest, Much?"

The Knox County Attorney General's Office said it is looking into a church sermon by a Knox County sheriff's detective that called for the government to arrest and execute LGBTQ community members.

In the hourlong sermon based on an Old Testament passage, Detective Grayson Fritts, also a pastor at All Scripture Baptist Church in Knoxville, told his congregation June 2 that he believes that federal, state and county governments should arrest, try, convict and "speedily" execute people within the LGBTQ community on no more grounds than a cell phone photo of a person participating in a Pride event.

Sheriff Tom Spangler issued a statement Wednesday afternoon, after the Knoxville News Sentinel first reported about the Fritts' sermon, that Fritts had asked two weeks ago to take a county buyout offer. Spangler said he agreed, and Fritts is on paid sick leave until it takes effect July 19.

Chris Sanders, executive director of the Tennessee Equality Project, said it is "particularly reprehensible when people use religion and their position in law enforcement to attack our community," Sanders said.


Fritts delivered his sermon at the church near downtown Knoxville on the first Sunday of Pride Month, which honors the anniversary of the 1969 Stonewall riots, considered a galvanizing moment in the gay rights movement.


"This is why we celebrate pride," said Sterling Field, Tennessee Equality Project chairman for Knox, Blount and Anderson counties. "We’ve had police brutality in the past. Pride started with the Stonewall uprising 50 years ago as a group of folks trying to assert that they deserve to be alive and deserve to have dignity and respect."

The defective detective responded:


The Knox County Sheriff's Office detective who came under fire Wednesday after the News Sentinel reported on his recent hate-filled sermon did not back off Wednesday on his stance that the government should arrest and execute members of the LGBTQ community.


Detective Grayson Fritts, pastor of All Scripture Baptist Church, scrapped his original sermon Wednesday afternoon and spoke about his view of persecution. He said he is not alone in his beliefs, but said he’s the only one willing to take a stand for it.

“I’m not an anomaly. I am a Baptist preacher that is just preaching the Bible and if it offends society, then it’s going to offend society, but if all these other pastors would grow a spine … and would stand up just like I’m standing up. …

He said other pastors, specifically Baptist pastors, don’t speak like he does because they’re afraid they will offend and will lose churchgoers and the offerings that come with them.

His church, off North Cherry Street in East Knoxville, is not associated with the Knox County Association of Baptists or the Southern Baptist Convention, the nation’s largest evangelical denomination.

Fritts made a point to note that he is not calling for violence and doesn’t want members of his church to act out, but said the government should kill LGBTQ members.

“I’m not calling anybody in here to arms. I’m not calling anyone here to violence,” he said, “I’m saying it’s the government’s responsibility, is what I said … we should be ‘harmless as doves.’”

Or in other words, "Hey, I'M not laying a finger on the homosexuals! I'm a preacher. A man of God. I would never call for violence against someone simply because everything about them disgusts and sickens me.

But if the government wants to wipe them all out, it wouldn't mess up my day."

Lord, save us from your followers.
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And this guy made it to detective and no-one noticed what a murderous loon he was?
Interesting that he was offered a buyout.
Maybe it's time to look back upon his record and see what else he's been up to, using his shield as, oh, a shield? Specifically, his treatment of minorities and the defenseless?

But I'm not calling anyone in here to arms. I'm not calling anyone here to violence
but if some of his followers were to pick up the torches, pitchforks and guns, he'd smirk, bless them and apologize for them as 'people pushed beyond endurance'. :sarcasm
I want to see actual Baptists take a stand against his statements. Surely they must be tired of these two-bit jackleg preachers dragging down their good name?
Unless they aren't really opposed?
 

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Of course not. If the Screamin' Cheeto can't be held accountable for the actions of his minions, why should this guy?
 

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Because their tiny little brains are threatened by every damn thing they see and hear that is minutely different than they are. And it brings out their Neanderthal instincts.

Given that Neandertals were highly intelligent, resourceful, compassionate towards injured, elderly and vulnerable members of the group (and pretty damn good at looking after them too*), together with the fact that hunter-gatherer societies are usually egalitarian and not sexist or homophobic, I don't think they would appreciate being likened to neo-Nazis.

*google Shanidar 1 if anyone needs examples

Agree with the rest of the post though. I've come to a similar conclusion re them being afraid of anyone that's different to them. Quite pathetic, really.
 

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Concern without action is useless. I can do more...


On 7 June, characters from distant chapters of my life decided that my sudden trajectory into the headlines was an opportune time to reintroduce themselves, sending a torrent of misguided good vibes alongside the picture, asking had I seen it. Had I seen it? Had I seen it? Of course I had, as soon as it was taken.

I was weeping bitterly, head ringing in pain as I sat next to my lovely date, Dr Melania Geymonat, who was calmer than I but dripping blood down her shirt front. We photographed the trail of our blood down the bus, ending at our still-bleeding faces as we awaited the police. I watched in real time as our faces – white, feminine, draped in pretty hair – circulated on every continent. Melania protected my name and information because I am a private individual without an online presence.


I guffawed the first time I read the not-quite-accurate, titillating headline: “Lesbians beaten for refusing to kiss.” For starters, I’m bisexual, but that’s besides the point. My memories of the fight are addled by adrenaline. Maddeningly, I don’t remember exactly how it started. My persisting anger is directed not towards the idiots on the bus but the reduction of my battered face to cheap clickbait.


For several days, a graphic, triggering photo of our bloody faces satisfied voyeurs and enriched companies whose values counter my own, such as News Corps and Sinclair Broadcast Group. Many of the outlets publishing my face without permission endorse racist, misogynist and xenophobic platforms and politicians. One world leader on her last day in office concluded a long career voting in favour of anti-gay, racist, colonial policies by expressing her condolences to us. We were Instagrammed by celebrities, vacuously retweeted by politicians, itemised on a BuzzFeed listicle. Despite so much inane coverage, Melania energetically leveraged her platform to highlight the misogyny embedded in the violence and today’s hate crime rates. She has inspired queers everywhere to share their own stories of abuse.


A refrain I’ve heard ad nauseum is “I can’t believe this happened – it’s 2019”. I disagree. This attack and the ensuing media circus are par for the course in 2019. In both my native United States and here in the United Kingdom, it always has been and still is open season on the bodies of (in no specific order) people of colour, indigenous people, transgender people, disabled people, queer people, poor people, women and migrants. I have evaded much of the violence and oppression imposed on so many others by our capitalist, white supremacist, patriarchal system because of the privileges I enjoy by dint of my race, health, education, and conventional gender presentation. That has nothing to do with the merit of my character.

The press coverage, and timely law enforcement response, was not coincidental to our complexions. Neither was the disproportionate online reaction over the victimisation of a pretty brunette and blonde. The commodification and exploitation of my face came at the expense of other victims whose constant persecution apparently does not warrant similar moral outrage.


Make the extraordinary reaction to our attack the norm. I beg you to amplify and channel this energy to hold accountable the intersecting web of elected politicians, government agencies and corporations who have reinforced a status quo of clearly delineated inequality long before this single attack in 2019. Redirect your money from rainbow capitalism to people-of-colour-led organisations striving for justice. I donated to the Astraea Lesbian Foundation for Justice, Trans Women of Color Collective and Transgender Legal Defense and Education Fund. Question why the photo of two attractive, white cisgender women compelled you to post about Pride for the first time.


Learn the names and stories of Muhlaysia Booker, Dana Martin, Chanel Scurlock. Elevate those who have been advocating for the basic rights and safety of communities marginalised by our existing political, economic and social structures long before I got punched in the face. Finding the right leaders takes some research and real-world activity. Their frequent absence from today’s headlines is not coincidental to their crusades. Stand up for yourselves and each other, and fight back.


...I know better and when you know better you should try to do better. I will try. I will try to be an ally to my LGBTQ friends and family not only in word, but in deed. It has to start somewhere. Let it start with me.