So many replies! I don't want to write a formulaic because, well...it's formulaic. I want to be more creative, not just make money. I've read romantic fiction, and, granted, it was only one book, but On the Island felt like a Hallmark movie. I don't mean any offense; it just wasn't my kind of book. What I'm trying to write is a maturation novel, but the external plot is a romantic one right now.
Ugh.
1. Don't judge a genre by one book.
2. Rule #1 - Respect Your Fellow Writer. Please don't insult other authors by declaring you're above what they do. (This is a stigma that has followed romance authors for decades, and it's demeaning.) ((I realize that wasn't your
intention, but words matter. "I don't read much romance, it's not my thing," is much different than, "Romance novels are all formulaic and my work is more creative than those authors' work."))
3. Romance has rules. It has rules for a reason. (As does sci-fi or mystery or cozy mystery or fantasy.) If you don't like said rules, it's NOT an apple cart you're going to upset, so write in a different genre. Such as women's fiction (which can have romantic elements, but the main plotline isn't the romance itself.)
4. Contrary to #3, whatever you're looking for in romance -- it's out there. It falls within the guidelines and rules for the genre, but it's out there.
5. Formulas can be found in darn near any book, in any genre, if you think broadly enough.
6. Formulas aren't a bad thing, nor are they indicative of some lack of creativity.
7. If your book at its core is a maturation theme, it's probably women's fiction (or possibly literary). If you remove the romantic plotline, the story still stands. In romance novels, that's not true. If you remove the romantic plotline in a romance, there's no book.
8. Write the book, then figure it out. While veinglory is 100% correct that keeping genre in mind is a good idea, especially depending on your goals, it sounds like your book might have enough crossover that you won't be certain if it's romance or women's fiction until it's done and you see how important the romantic storyline is.
9. Writing is hard. Marketing is harder. Your struggle to define your book isn't unique, so you're in great company.