That's good to know. I'm under the assumption a good CPer and/or Beta Reader would be the same yes?
I can't think of a single reason to insult someone's work, or try to bully them into changes. It won't produce good material, it won't make for a good relationship, it won't help the writer build confidence in either the crit process or their own abilities, and it won't be the basis of a long-lasting partnership.
I'm not precious about writing - there is stuff I write that I know I'll never want to change, so I just keep it in my cabinet, but on the other hand, I spent years writing retail TV commercials, and you don't get much more servile than that. Even in advertising, though, I've never been insulted or bullied by a client: they might say "You have to do it my way because reasons (including paycheck)." - that would be fine. And when it's a novel of mine that I want to sell, I expect critique and input and I'll find a way to make changes whenever they're suggested, if I trust the person critiquing. After the actual writing, that's my favourite part of the process - working with a really great editor or a really great agent who just wants to make it a bit more sellable.
I guess I'm saying - don't send work out for crit to someone whose opinion you don't have burning faith in; and never,
never, never allow people to bully you or insult your work under the guise of "helping".
Lots of people will diss your work once it's out - that's their right, if you've put it out for consumption. But I don't think anyone should have to accept insults or bullying
as part of the process. I feel very strongly about this. I can't imagine it helping at all. I'd certainly call out anyone who tried it on now, so they don't inflict it on others.
Point them out to me. I've got your back on this.