I joined AW in early Nov of 2004, so I've been here growing old, literally, with a lot of members. I've seen the earliest and not so earliest members leave (breaks my heart) and I know who, out of the older, seasoned crowd is still here, interacting, teaching, advising, helping and following the other members. Most of our Mods deserve to be knighted for their incredible years of service. Y'all know who you are too. My published days go back to 1987 almost to the day when I saw James D. McDonald begin his publishing career. Man, I can't describe the thrill and exciting days of the SFF community back then. I think that I have written about 32 full-sized novels and racked up thousands and thousands of rejections. I do believe, with some coy vindictiveness, that I have rejected more publishers and agents than anyone here, and that was when I was in between agents and during my small proactive/agent years. I had my 15 minutes of fame from 1988 to 1991. I'll never recapture that again. I guess I'm the Harlan Ellison of writer advocates and instructors. Dear God I can lose my temper with this industry. But I love her, him, it.
Guh, when I think of J.K. I think oh, hell no. that was a cakewalk. The press sensationalized the rejections. Her elaborate research, note-taking and countless revisions for five years for the first book was the real test of her moxie.
I took 15 rejects before my first agent. I took 25 for my second, and I gobbled up 420 for my third (but I rejected about six or seven agents out of that batch). The last agent submissions nearly sent me into a nervous breakdown. You can see a huge chasm between the first two and third. It is so subjective and depends upon so many factors, it's hard to pull an average rejection number out of it. What's more important is learning from your mistakes and zeroing closer and closer to what you believe is the perfect manuscript. And what's so cool about it, is that there is no perfect manuscript. It's the journey that's the prize. Enjoy where you've been and you'll really love it when you get there