Some great advice above, especially about inferring rather than always being explicit.
I'm a non-virgin male (actually, I think I might have a bit of virginity left over but I've been married 25 years, so it's elusive). The stuff which gets me dreaming is always about context rather than the physical act. I think that's why so many female sexy costumes are subordinate roles - schoolgirl, nurse, secretary - the uniform quickly gets a story started in the observer's head. I don't think those roles are coincidence, I suspect that status relationships matter a lot to many people. Likewise with very masculine uniforms - again, there's a ready-made story to get us started.
What makes a scene erotic has something to do with power, I think, and everything to do with the way the sexual tension builds. My two penn'orth, anyway.
PS please don't bully me for saying those roles are subordinate - you know what I mean, some people view them in that light / it's a common societal shorthand, etc. I'm married to a nurse, and she's definitely in charge in our house
I'm a non-virgin male (actually, I think I might have a bit of virginity left over but I've been married 25 years, so it's elusive). The stuff which gets me dreaming is always about context rather than the physical act. I think that's why so many female sexy costumes are subordinate roles - schoolgirl, nurse, secretary - the uniform quickly gets a story started in the observer's head. I don't think those roles are coincidence, I suspect that status relationships matter a lot to many people. Likewise with very masculine uniforms - again, there's a ready-made story to get us started.
What makes a scene erotic has something to do with power, I think, and everything to do with the way the sexual tension builds. My two penn'orth, anyway.
PS please don't bully me for saying those roles are subordinate - you know what I mean, some people view them in that light / it's a common societal shorthand, etc. I'm married to a nurse, and she's definitely in charge in our house
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