I remember when I was a virgin. The fantasies I had were pretty hot to me, and by the time I could practice them, the women I was with seemed to think they were pretty hot too. It’s great to have that vindication. But until you’re there, I think that your notions of what sex could be are every bit as valid as anyone else’s regardless of how experienced at the mechanics they are.

People are fond of saying that the mind is the biggest sex organ, or the most important one. Maybe that’s true. Some people also believe in the “body mind,” meaning that our bodies also have an intelligence which enhances the brain’s contributions.

When you write erotic stories, does your body respond? Does that response inform what the brain thinks?

Be in the moment and don’t be bashful about getting your freak on in your stories.

That’s my 2 cents.