Learning to celebrate my accomplishments

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I have a terrible habit of moving the goalposts on myself. Instead of celebrating my accomplishments, I focus on the next goal. And I add a caveat-- yes I did this, but I was lucky, or I had help, or it's no big deal. Well, after reaching so many goals this year, I'm a bumbling mess of anxiety and impostor syndrome. I need to learn to bask in what I've done, not look at what I haven't.

So let's talk about the goals I've reached. In April 2017 I started a new MS (not my first). I had an agent by July, and went on submission in September. It sold to a big 5 imprint for a print deal in March, and am almost finished my first edits on time (and on a tight deadline). Yes, I have a lot of support, and yes, luck had a part to play in all that, but I did that.

I would say more about my book, but the pub hasn't announced the deal yet, which is only adding to the impostor syndrome.
 

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This is AMAZING! Not only did you get an agent, but you sold your piece to a Big-5 imprint.

Be proud. You did good! :)
 

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Wow, that's pretty great. Nice to hear a story like that. Bask away!
 

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Great stuff; congratulations!

I'm wired a bit different. I can't celebrate my accomplishments till the project is finished. I take time off and relax (as a form of reward), periodically, so I do not burn out. For me, I'd rather forget the tasks of the multi-phasic process of learning how to write, research, and writing. Instead, I'll wait to celebrate (if and when I sell my first work), and attempt to leave the process out of my periphery.
 
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That's huge! Definitely worth a celebration. And taking the step to acknowledge it's celebration-worthy is also huge. Good work!

Blessings,

Siri Kirpal
 

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I have a terrible habit of moving the goalposts on myself. Instead of celebrating my accomplishments, I focus on the next goal. And I add a caveat-- yes I did this, but I was lucky, or I had help, or it's no big deal. Well, after reaching so many goals this year, I'm a bumbling mess of anxiety and impostor syndrome. I need to learn to bask in what I've done, not look at what I haven't.

So let's talk about the goals I've reached. In April 2017 I started a new MS (not my first). I had an agent by July, and went on submission in September. It sold to a big 5 imprint for a print deal in March, and am almost finished my first edits on time (and on a tight deadline). Yes, I have a lot of support, and yes, luck had a part to play in all that, but I did that.

I would say more about my book, but the pub hasn't announced the deal yet, which is only adding to the impostor syndrome.


Be SO proud! This is the dream.
 

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Oh, I absolutely do the same. Why's it so easy to beat ourselves up but so hard to celebrate?

Anyway, CONGRATULATIONS! You have achieved something amazing. As for impostor syndrome, I think it affects 99% of successful creatives. It's just one of the fun things we have to deal with. (I haven't dealt with it myself because I've not been successful enough. In fact, I long for the day I have impostor syndrome :tongue)

Congratulations again. You should be very proud of yourself and your accomplishments.
 

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Fear of failure :poke: Fear of success. I haven't experienced the latter.

So happy for you. Living the dream!
 
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