Remus you posted about these issues before.

In 2010 you posted about your terrible crit group and taking critiques.

The same year you posted about What to do when the problem is you

In 2012. It's all about socializing, and I can't do that.

You're still asking the same questions eight years later. You're still pointing at other people, and an inability to socialize as the root cause for not being published as you want.

You're not on submission; your book is. No one really cares how socialized you are. They care about your writing. Any kind of outward socializing you're likely to be pressured to engage in is going to be in writing.