Went to a hypnotherapist today. Not sure how much of the soft therapy she said I believe in, especially the "smiling your way to happiness" thing, I just felt like I was getting strangled by a mask when I stopped feeling it. Not sure I buy that the hypnosis worked either, although maybe I should just give it a bit to work, set in. I'm still wondering, if discipline is something you have practice and learn, how are you supposed to get it when you start out having negative one in discipline? Those are bad stats.
Ah, yes, Unlimited Budget Works. I thought the second half flagged a bit. Still awesome. Still gotta recommend you watch the old Fate/Stay Night before Zero, which is a measure for it's temperature of coolness.
Here Rel, precious! Take this Cat O' Nine Tails for +2 to discipline... You need it more than I
There's another version of Stay Night???
Where do I find it!? I checked crunchyroll and it ain't there as far as I can tell. I think I may know what you're talking about though, as I tried F/SN a long time ago and SOMEHOW didn't get into it!!!??? :'O I know, I used to be tha werst!
at the risk of getting personal in my response:
I really disagree with the idea that smiling will make you happy. I tried that for years and just repressed everything to the point of explosion. I think talking through emotions is so much healthier and has more long-term benefits
You know what, Jade? The Cantina is a safe space full of awesomesauce people (I'm including the lurkers here!
), it's okay to get personal if you think doing so will help another person here.
And while I agree with your sentiments in the above, I would like to clarify that smiling - whether 'fake' or 'real' -
does make one happier, if on a neurochemical/hormonal level, because the physical act, the actual movement of the muscles required to bare one's teeth, releases all them various happifying chemicals in the brain.
Smiling when you're in distress will not make the distress go away, it won't get rid of outside stimulus if that's what's causing the problem. But internalising the act of being happy through smiling or any other means, by Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, say, definitely does have long-term benefits. There's a funky-fresh diagram I keep seeing about the interconnectedness of CBT (possibly because I'm undergoing such therapy rn), and by that diagram I have come to the understanding that just as thoughts and feelings influence behaviour, so too does behaviour (like smiling when you don't really want to) influence thoughts and feelings.
(There was also a whole bunch of stuff about environment and exercise, but like, meh!)
So if you or anyone else gets out of bed on the wrong side, consider smiling at yosizzelf in whatever reflecty-thing you use, not because it will make your problems go away, but because your problems might smile back atcha! And who doesn't love a good smile??