Aromantic Writer

Simpson17866 · Apr 5, 2018

Sheila Muirenn said:
That is a lot more clear.

I think I still have a problem with the word 'romantic,' though.

It just means the emotional attraction of wanting someone as your Significant Other (with or without any added physical attraction of wanting them as a sexual partner).

The technical term for the collection of non-asexual and/or non-aromantic orientations is "allo–"

Asexual = asexual
Heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual ... = allosexual

Aromantic = aromantic
Heteroromantic, homoromantic, biromantic ... = alloromantic

Contrary to popular opinion, this terminology does not mean that you are attracted to Allosauruses.

Tabitha Rose · Apr 5, 2018

Simpson17866 said:
Contrary to popular opinion, this terminology does not mean that you are attracted to Allosauruses.

Not that there's anything wrong with that.

Sheila Muirenn · Apr 5, 2018

Tabitha Rose said:
Not that there's anything wrong with that.

I always wanted to be a paleontologist.

Pancubuzz · Apr 20, 2018

New poster and fellow aro spectrum writer (I'm really leaning toward the quoiromantic label at the moment but aro is easiest to explain to other people), just wanted to say hi and how nice it is to see fellow aro-spec people around, especially writers. Sometimes it feels like I'm the only one ~~especially when people irl tell me I should be cautious about making my MCs aro~~, so it's good to meet all of you

Lissibith · May 11, 2018

Belated addition to the club

Aro but not terribly ace here. (and having the interesting problem of repeatedly getting dinged by my betas for not including budding romantic relationships in my stories >.> A thing I have literally zero interest in ever including, alas)

JJ Crafts · May 11, 2018

Also aro/ace writer here. Also struggling with the writing but on the ace side. Realising I can't write allosexual attraction without it sounding horribly objectifying and cringey to me!

Kithica · Sep 24, 2018

I'm... still working it out I think. Definitely ace. Not sure about aro. Maybe? Maybe aspirationally but not practically homoromantic? Is that a thing?

I'm currently having spasms about whether the MC in my current novel should be ace or not. Despite having ALREADY WRITTEN A ROMANCE, I only figured out the ace thing since then, so now my brain is telling me 'how can you possibly write a convincing romance if you've never lived it'? Even though nothing about my life at ALL (other than some self-knowledge) has changed since then. But also because there's not a lot of ace representation in the world, and I would like to add to that. So that maybe the next ace girl doesn't have to have to wait until the age of 40 to start figuring some of this stuff out.

Albedo · Sep 24, 2018

Kithica said:
I'm... still working it out I think. Definitely ace. Not sure about aro. Maybe? Maybe aspirationally but not practically homoromantic? Is that a thing?

I'm currently having spasms about whether the MC in my current novel should be ace or not. Despite having ALREADY WRITTEN A ROMANCE, I only figured out the ace thing since then, so now my brain is telling me 'how can you possibly write a convincing romance if you've never lived it'? Even though nothing about my life at ALL (other than some self-knowledge) has changed since then. But also because there's not a lot of ace representation in the world, and I would like to add to that. So that maybe the next ace girl doesn't have to have to wait until the age of 40 to start figuring some of this stuff out.

Tell your brain 'and why not?' Tell it that an inordinate amount of cultural output over the centuries has spread the word on romance quite adequately, thanks. Love ain't exactly some great mystery of the universe. Of course aros can write romance. And aces can write erotica. Some are smashingly good at it, too.

as for representation, do it! Do it! Do it!

Kithica · Sep 26, 2018

Albedo said:
Tell your brain 'and why not?' Tell it that an inordinate amount of cultural output over the centuries has spread the word on romance quite adequately, thanks. Love ain't exactly some great mystery of the universe. Of course aros can write romance. And aces can write erotica. Some are smashingly good at it, too.

as for representation, do it! Do it! Do it!

Thank you for the support. :Hug2:

I do know that, I'm just going through a process right now that is a little bumpy. The MOST ridiculous part is, that my for-fun writing for the last decade and a half has been the slushiest romantic fixit fanfic you can possibly imagine. But sexual identity crisis + playing with own characters = massive self doubt apparently. I'll keep coming back to your words for a kick in the pants when I need it, though.

On the representation front, it might be up to the character to let me know which way she swings at this point. I'll keep you posted!

RedMargarita · Dec 2, 2019

I'm picking this thread back up, because I'm also an aromantic writer. I have no interest in romance in my personal life, I find platonic friendships more fun and less stressful, but I do enjoy writing romance because I like the challenge of writing a romance that's not riddled with any toxic tropes or cliches. Right now, I'm working on a mystery series that has a romance between a bi man and a bi woman, and it's a lot of fun writing scenes where they make fun of bi stereotypes.

Can't say I'm a fan of reading romances though.

Sheila Muirenn · May 21, 2020

Aro and grey ace, does that mean Grace?

Aromantic Writer

Simpson17866

Tabitha Rose

Sheila Muirenn

Rebuilding My Brain

Pancubuzz

Lissibith

On target

JJ Crafts

Kithica

Albedo

Alex

Kithica

RedMargarita

Neck deep in research

Sheila Muirenn

Rebuilding My Brain