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This summer has been very tough. I thought my grief would get better with time, but it seems to be getting worse. For a while, it was like I could pretend my dad wasn't gone. Now, it's impossible to deny it.
That's the tricky thing with grief. It isn't linear. Especially if it was someone really important to you. The only thing I can say is that given enough time those brutally hard moments aren't as frequent. But they will still happen. It's been twenty-four years since my dad passed away and I can still get blindsided by those feelings of loss.
Hang in there and expect there to be ups and downs. It's normal. But if you feel like it's getting unrelentingly worse then seek help. There's nothing wrong with needing help if that's what it takes.
Also, there was a great essay on grief by Lauren Herschel in The Writer's Book of Doubt. Looks like it was adapted from a Twitter thread so might be worth searching for "the pain button" on her page to find the original.