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Ugh, Brightdreamer, the "lose weight" shrug and response is awful. It's terrible that your family has to go through that.
This is the second time in three weeks I have texted my mom permission to visit and she suddenly has plans the day of, and then acts like we never agreed on it, or pretends to be sad. It was one thing when I realized my mom had only visited me twice in one year, despite the fact that she has a car and for her to drive over takes twenty minutes in good traffic. Now, it is this. She routinely blames -me- for not visiting, and -every- time, I patiently lay out, bus by bus, my commute and how long it takes me. (Three buses, it all adds up to two and a half hours typically, but an hour and a half if I want to be there at nine in the morning.)
My real issue is with myself, actually. As someone clever put it, I'm repeatedly "auditioning for the approval of people who don't like me." I guess I could say I keep taking the bait and get worked up over it, but--my DAD does this, not my mom. My dad and I have a horrible relationship, and my mom and I used to be close. I wish I could move on.
This is the second time in three weeks I have texted my mom permission to visit and she suddenly has plans the day of, and then acts like we never agreed on it, or pretends to be sad. It was one thing when I realized my mom had only visited me twice in one year, despite the fact that she has a car and for her to drive over takes twenty minutes in good traffic. Now, it is this. She routinely blames -me- for not visiting, and -every- time, I patiently lay out, bus by bus, my commute and how long it takes me. (Three buses, it all adds up to two and a half hours typically, but an hour and a half if I want to be there at nine in the morning.)
My real issue is with myself, actually. As someone clever put it, I'm repeatedly "auditioning for the approval of people who don't like me." I guess I could say I keep taking the bait and get worked up over it, but--my DAD does this, not my mom. My dad and I have a horrible relationship, and my mom and I used to be close. I wish I could move on.