Your best bet is to find a Rabbi and ask all the questions. I can recommend books if you're still looking (I know, this is an old thread.)

Visit a synagogue. There is nothing that will prepare a non-Jewish person for what a synagogue is really like without going. For example, there is no collection plate in Jewish services (due to money handling/carrying prohibitions). The organization is more board-like and less like what you'd see in a church with formal positions of "deacon" etc. My reform congregation has a female cantor and a rabbi on staff, but that's about it. Everything else is volunteer and it probably took them 3 years to save up the money to hire them.