With my first, a natural home birth, I first felt a deep sense of peace. Even though my baby had the cord firmly around his neck multiple times and was born blue and floppy, I knew he was there, he was fine, all was well. My midwife did a quick little move that took the cord off his neck, put him on my chest, and began giving him a brisk back massage while her assistant readied the oxygen...but the oxygen wasn't needed. He took his first breath and it was AMAZING. You could see him turning from blue to bright pink, starting with the lungs and moving outwards. He began to breath, to wiggle, and even to nurse right away. I cried tears of joy. Even though it had been a long labor, an all-nighter, I was full of energy and was immediately up and about. A friend came to the house and I opened the door to welcome him, baby in arms, and jokingly said, "Look what I did!"
Of course, I learned later that with so much oxytocin in my body, carrying the baby around like that was kind of a mistake. Took the chiropractor a while to straighten me out.
With my second-born, we started out at home and everything was going great. I was about seven centimeters dialated when I said, "Wow, if the rest of it goes like this, this is going to be the easiest birth ever!" and got up to walk around, hoping to speed the labor. As soon as I was on my feet, my water burst, and the baby fell into an undeliverable position. Try what we may, the baby just couldn't come out naturally. So it was to the hospital with me, for an emergency C-section. The midwives came along and helped immensely, acting as my advocate, filling out paperwork, providing doctors with my full medical history, not to mention lessening my pain where possible.
The epidural failed and I had to be gassed.
When I woke up, I was in a white room with two women standing over me. I said, "Where's my baby? I want my baby," and was told she was "over there" with a vague gesture. I had to get very persistent in demanding my child; apparently, my white blood cell count had been high when I arrived, and they didn't want me getting the baby sick. I told them that I
was going to be with my baby, and what she needed was to be nursed by her mother; even if I was sick, she could get antibodies in the milk. They said "wait for the doctor's approval" but when I asked how long before that would happen, they said, "about four hours," to which I said "No. I'm not waiting. You give me my baby, NOW."
They wheeled her up next to me, and she looked so tiny and fragile and scared. I took her in my arms (despite one nurse's protests) and promised her, then and there, that I was going to make this whole mess up to her. Her first hour of life had been entirely without her mother's touch; from the look of it, she'd been handled impersonally and left alone in a hard, glass sided bassinet. I didn't cry tears of joy, but I did cry. I didn't feel like anyone had acted wrongly, but my baby girl had endured a rough trip and afterward, it was a full hour before she was shown any love in this world. I felt sorrow, and worry, and while I felt an intense need to make things better for her, and show her love, and keep her safe, I didn't feel the same immediate bond I had with my son.
Definitely bitter-sweet.