Thank you! I shall pass it on.
Maryn, tipping her hat
Please tell your daughter to look me up on twitter. I love new friends.
Thank you! I shall pass it on.
Maryn, tipping her hat
So, I assume I was the last one to find out, but if you're trans get on twitter. There is an amazing trans community there. It uplifts me more than I ever could have imagined. It's f-ing joyous. FYI.
Please tell your daughter to look me up on twitter. I love new friends.
So I ran into a weird thing and I don't know how to deal. I've always thought of myself as kind of...nothing. I am me more than I am any gender. I look and present female, though when I was young I desperately wanted to be male. I'm a woman in RL, and happily married and such, but every chance I get in online games or role-playing, like D&D, I play male. Role play is the last place I can live out that part of myself.
Anyway, the issue comes with LARP, where they are asking me my pronouns as part of a game intro. I hate this question, because I don't know. I have no problem with people seeing me and calling me she in RL, because I look like a girl and it's just easy to go along with it. I'm not dysphoric, I guess, although sometimes I get a minor twinge at hearing the she/her in some situation. But in a fantasy game, I WANT TO BE MALE. But in LARP, I can't. I look way too female. But I don't want to just say "call me she/her" because that locks me into my gender. But I don't want to say he/him because I would feel like an impostor, and again, locks me into a gender I haven't fully embraced. But they/them doesn't feel right either.
I hate that gender is such a big deal. I like the freedom of fantasy games to be whatever I want, but when I mix up RL and fantasy games, like in LARP, it makes the fantasy so limiting. I also hate the proliferation of voice chat in MMOs, because my fantasy gets ruined, and as soon as people hear my voice, the she/her pronouns show up when I want to hear the he/him. But correcting it would feel weird since it's a character, not ME, but that character exists because I don't want to be limited to one gender.
This was probably all random, but I'm wondering if I could just put "fluid" for pronouns? But I have no idea how that would be interpreted. I'd rather have other people assign me pronouns than pick one for myself, because I don't feel like enough of anything to say.
FWIW, I think this sounds like an excellent solution.You can say "I have no preference, you can use whatever pronouns you'd like for me, but when we're in-character please refer to me as he/him." Since it's LARPing, people should understand that!
It's funny, I use patches, but I don't know the nickname. I know E pills are often called Titty Skittles.Hello!!!
Also good question to ask the room: is there a specific name or nickname for E patches? I need to know, for world building purposes