Once again, my thanks to all who replied wishing my husband and I the best
LOL Rich! Mount St. Helens. Oy!
Aboyd, Happy B-Day in advance!
My hubby's B-Day is the 14th of May. You gotta post so we can razz ya. Razz = the virtual way to spank ;-)
Wormo, if you think of that definition let me know.
Hey mommie4a! Gratz on 14 for you. What month is your anniversary?
Hello Pencilone, Gratz to you on 10 years!! What an awesome gift of forgiveness you gave your husband. May blessings come back to you for that.
Debbie, 24 years!! That's fantastic. Got any tips to share?
LMAO Brokenfingers.
Hey Celeste!! There was a time that romance was gone from our marriage. Things seemed so empty, so dead and lonely. Not just for me but for my husband to. This seemingly dead period lasted almost 5 years.
I thought for sure our marriage was over and so did he. We stopped sleeping in the same bed together and could barely tolerate being in the same room together.
Talk about a time of trial by pain and misery. Pain and misery are two of the many negative emotions that will settle in when all other emotions are gone. Negative emotions are like parasites or demonic opportunists possessing their host with intent to destroy.
During that 5 years, many things took place. Some good and some not so good at all. One of the good things that took place was my spiritual realization. I'm not going to call it an awakening because spiritual events have been occurring in my life beginning as far back into my childhood as I can recall...but that is another story.
Anyway, there finally came a day that I began to get sick and tired of being sick and tired. I remembered a time a friend told me, "One day you'll wake up and leave. You will take your children and some belongings and you'll just go."
The more I thought about that the more I began to feel pissed off! I wasn't angry because of what she said, I was angry because I realized how easy it could be to just go and at first I couldn't figure out why after 5 years I hadn't left. Then
"it" hit me hard. The reality of
"it" had been there all along! I wondered how in the world I had failed to realize
"it" for 5 years!
"It" began to make a difference especially after I took my understanding of
"it" and shared
"it" with my husband. He began to realize
"it" to and then things began to get even better.
Yesterday was 15 years of marriage. Slowly my husband and I work to resolve the issues of our past and we strive to grow together. Yes we still have disagreements and arguments now and then. I am a Scorpio after all and he is a Taurus.
Despite my spiritual realization and despite any astrological influence there may or may not be, there is always the truth of
"it". If you have
"it" then you have
"it" all even when you can't feel
"it".
"It" is what remains when the romance is gone and
"it" is what keeps two people together when they could easily leave one another.
"It" is Love.
Wonderful emotions, romance and passionate intimacy are all gifts of love. These experiences, of themselves, are not love. True love is never subject to emotional experiences despite the fact we allow ourselves to become subject to our emotions. Because of this subjection, we often lose sight of what is real for us and what has meaning.
Why can divorce be so devastating? Why does it leave such deep wounds? Why do relationships that end cause us so much grief? ... because we have
"it" even if we did not realize
"it".
Why does a battered woman return to her husband time and time again? You may say because of fear and I would agree but I say it is also because she loves him. Do I condone violence? Absolutely not! To anyone in an abusive relationship, "Get out! Save your life and your sanity!"
Our nature includes the capacity to love and to hate. We understand the fine line that exists between the two. It is up to each of us to decide what we want to do with
"It" and to accept the consequence of our decisions.
Take
"it" or leave
"it" if you must but avoid placing value on
"it" based on emotional experience or lack thereof.
Sincerely,
Gehanna