Sh*t-stirrers

So you don't want to know what haggis said about you.

Actually I don't mind if someone tells me something someone else has said. I will contact the person first person and set the record straight. Or if the person who told me doesn't want to tell me the name, I ask them to set the record straight.

ONe thing about living in a small town some people (okay, the town drunks) have nothing else to do than to gossip and apparently they'll just make it up. Jeez. No lifers.

Course, Elodie-Caroline, if people telling you this ticks you off, you had a good comeback in your comment: "why don't they turn around and defend you to the person dissing you."

If you want to watch these good samaritans squirm, ask them, "Well, how did you defend me?"

I've reached the point where my response has become. "No kidding? They said that? Let's go ask them." Followed by "Hey, he/she says that you said....."

Once or twice of that, in a crowded room, and both of them stop.

"Pff, doesn't surprise me. You should hear what he/she says about you."
That's been my honest return a couple of times.

It depends: if it's my friends involved then hell yeah I'm going to tell them what people are saying, and defend them as well because they need to know about it if the person talking jazz about them is going to try to pretend everything's okay when they meet face to face. Likewise, if somebody's talking about me behind my back but pretending to be cool to my face I want to know about this. We don't have to have a confrontation, I just don't want to associate with this person...

Jcomp said:

It depends: if it's my friends involved then hell yeah I'm going to tell them what people are saying, and defend them as well because they need to know about it if the person talking jazz about them is going to try to pretend everything's okay when they meet face to face. Likewise, if somebody's talking about me behind my back but pretending to be cool to my face I want to know about this. We don't have to have a confrontation, I just don't want to associate with this person...

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I'm the same way. I also try to make sure that if I say anything about someone else that it's something I can own up to.

Ug. I can't stand that kind of bullshit. Reminds me of junior high.

Last time someone told me that I was being talked about I told them "I don't care." She was stunned. Truth is, I don't care. If someone doesn't have the balls to say stuff to my face, I'm really not concerned about their opinion.

I know if someone was about to tell me what someone else said about me, I'd want to know, but I would also wonder why the person is telling me and whether it's to make me feel badly or to help me. I don't think I'd like them too much, unless, of course, it was praise.

PS I wonder what happened to our sig pics?

Elodie-Caroline said:

For everyone else. Let's face it, we all gossip, don't we.

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I at least like to think that I don't.

jennontheisland said:

Ug. I can't stand that kind of bullshit. Reminds me of junior high.

Last time someone told me that I was being talked about I told them "I don't care." She was stunned. Truth is, I don't care. If someone doesn't have the balls to say stuff to my face, I'm really not concerned about their opinion.

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I second this; furthermore, I wash my hands of both parties. I hated high school drama crap, why, at 43, would I want a repeat venture? Ick. No. My step mother was a vicious gossip--anyone know a good voodoo queen? As a result, she's alienated herself, not once, but four times, each time having to sell their house so they could move to a new neighborhood & have a fresh start. Translation: fresh victims.

I don't play the he said/she said madness. If you've done something to irritate me, or something that I find exquisite, I'll tell you. I expect the same in return. Respect yourself. Period. Gossipers don't respect themselves; how can you expect them to respect you? I've also found that those that are eager to tell you so & so was talking about you had quite a bit to say about you as well. Pfff. Nope. They both get the boot.