I'm posting this blog because it's exactly how I feel about so many of these novels that have the alpha male, yet to me the alpha male should not be an abusive dick wad. I'm sad to see so many of these novels with men who in real life would be flagged as abusive and women should run the other way from.
Quote from the blog.
"The alpha male is confident. Brave. Fierce. Unwavering. Protective. He’s a sexual powerhouse. Sometimes cocky and his ego can get the better of him. He’s in great physical shape. He’s a natural leader, and someone people find themselves drawn to. When he tells you he loves you, he means it. The alpha male is a man’s, man. He probably eats a shit load of steak and loves beer, scotch and whiskey. The alpha male has purpose and drive. He has values, he knows how to treat a woman and above all else – he is true to himself no matter what because he knows who he is. He’s the kind of guy that most often gets described as smelling like tobacco and cologne, or smoke and spice or…whatever bonkers but super masculine scent combination us writers like to come up with."
Here's what he's become.
Quote from blog
"Moody and brooding almost 70% of the time. Hyper jealous, insanely possessive and controlling. Complete assholes…oh, to make up for some traumatic event in their life most likely. They disappear only to reappear and the woman takes them back…because he’s just an alpha and that’s what they do. Ego’s bigger than Texas, and acting like overgrown babies when another man even dares to speak to “their woman.” I’m surprised some of them didn’t toss the heroine over their shoulder cave-man style and carry them back to their lair so they can have over the top sex, and she doesn’t complain because he’s just so darn irresistible."
It's just something that is driving me crazy in the genre. And what is even more disheartening is sometimes I'm blindsided by it mid novel after enjoying the book and then half way through the guy I really like turns into a possessive creep.
So if any of you have read some great alpha male romance novels where he isn't an asshole and doesn't treat the woman like a child I would love to gather a list so I don't waste any more of my precious reading time on losers.
Ok vent over.
I don't know any book character examples because I don't read those stories but I am willing to believe you and I appreciate your rant about this. I'm so burned out on this alpha male obsession we have in America right now. It's the current wanna be trend, to be the loud, rude, obnoxious, attention seeking person in the room because it makes you look alpha. It's embarrassing to watch how so many men are trying to be "alpha" because the misguided seem to believe that being disrespectful and controlling is somehow going to make you look confident and important. If that is who you are, then that is one thing and hopefully those people are aware that their behavior is damaging and seeking to fix that. However for someone to strive to be more like that and take pride in how big of an egotistical, disrespectful, self righteous, loud mouthed, arrogant douche bag they can become is just shameful.
One way I like to respond to these people is look at them and say BLOW IT OUT YOUR ASS!!