My new job is at a company that is male dominated in a male oriented industry. At meetings, some of the guys swear. It's not directed at anyone or abusive, but simply used as a (perhaps crude) way to emphasize a point.
Although I behave like quite the lady at work and never swear when there, swearing doesn't bother me at all. I'm quite capable of painting my own colorful blue streaks when I feel like it, though I like myself more when I don't.
Here's what is starting to bother me, though. My manager, a nice guy about 12 years younger than I am, apologizes to me in advance before he drops a swearword at a meeting. So he'll be saying something, then pause, look at me and say "I really hope Devil will pardon me for this, but" then turn back to the others and say "but I think it's bullshit if bla bla bla."
I hate this. I know he thinks he's being polite, but really, in the time he's taking to beg my pardon, he could think of a more clever adjective than "bullshit." But that doesn't bother me nearly as much as the way his stopping to single me out for a preemptive apology serves to point out to everyone in the room that I'm the only female there, and "different" and perhaps considered easily offended and delicate. Which is simply, uh, bullshit.
So, should I address this with him privately, or should I wait until apologizes in advance at another meeting, then sweetly reply, "it's fine, Mr. Manager sir. Really, I don't give a shit if you swear. It doesn't bother me one fucking little bit."
Although I behave like quite the lady at work and never swear when there, swearing doesn't bother me at all. I'm quite capable of painting my own colorful blue streaks when I feel like it, though I like myself more when I don't.
Here's what is starting to bother me, though. My manager, a nice guy about 12 years younger than I am, apologizes to me in advance before he drops a swearword at a meeting. So he'll be saying something, then pause, look at me and say "I really hope Devil will pardon me for this, but" then turn back to the others and say "but I think it's bullshit if bla bla bla."
I hate this. I know he thinks he's being polite, but really, in the time he's taking to beg my pardon, he could think of a more clever adjective than "bullshit." But that doesn't bother me nearly as much as the way his stopping to single me out for a preemptive apology serves to point out to everyone in the room that I'm the only female there, and "different" and perhaps considered easily offended and delicate. Which is simply, uh, bullshit.
So, should I address this with him privately, or should I wait until apologizes in advance at another meeting, then sweetly reply, "it's fine, Mr. Manager sir. Really, I don't give a shit if you swear. It doesn't bother me one fucking little bit."