First, an off topic bit of advice when replying to posts. You can quote multiple posts using the + button next to the "quote" button. It's a feature I don't see on every message board, so it's easy for people to miss.
For emphasis I'm going to quote a couple of people:
If I sauntered onto a LGBT message board where no one knew me from Adam/Eve and declared some gays are just so sensitive and see perceived threats everywhere I'd get a smackdown. And I'd deserve it. Furthermore, my behavior among friends and those who know me is not how I behave among everyone. I may make crass jokes with close friends, but I'd never say such things to complete strangers. It's rude, and how you behave somewhere else has no bearing on how you ought to behave here.I am truly, honestly not getting where I am being offensive. If you read my Facebook posts, then you would see my truly offensive side. I co-edit several zines, and we always have a great time, cracking jokes, dissecting submissions, razzing each other, unleashing our sarcasm. It's all good fun. No hard feelings. My colleagues there are all writers. Maybe I have some sort of mild learning/communication disability. Feel free to treat me as you would someone with a disability. (I have a feeling I'll get slapped on the wrist for saying that too.)
For emphasis I'm going to quote a couple of people:
My youngest son has an extreme form of a learning and communication disability. I treat him in just the same way as I treat my other son: with respect and love. And I find your flippancy about this particular topic hugely offensive.
To be honest, I think you know you're behaving poorly and are feigning ignorance.ETA: Oh, and speaking as someone with several physical disabilities, yes, your glib comment about treating you with kid-gloves because, what, you don't know how to be civil? Not winning you any points. You're "Oh dear how am I possibly being offensive, oh mercy me! I just don't understand!" stance smacks of playing dumb to me. You know what you said. You're a writer, words have meaning, text has tone. Re-evaluate, or step away from the keyboard because you are seriously not doing yourself any favours.