Unfortunately for my nerves, I believe you're right. (I didn't submit anything twice though--I was just told that they would be reading the entire original submission rather than the first few chapters alone.) I actually chatted with the editor on DMs about something else entirely and they brought up that they thought I'd hear back by the end of May re: if it would go to acquisitions. I didn't want to intrude on a private DM to ask for any further response because that is weird and creepy.
I queried three different books over two years before landing my agent and am not a nudger by nature. She sent this project out to a number of houses from her end, but this one I handled on my own because it was from a pitch event and the way the link worked, it was easier for me to do. It was clear in my sub package that I have an agent, but the correspondence so far has been through me, so I am unsure if asking her to be the nudger is the right protocol?
I think part of my anxiety stems from being at a loss for which project to spend my time writing next. I have the opening four or five chapters for two books--a sequel to this which I am DYING to write, but hesitant to waste me time if no one bites on this one, and another which isn't quite as fun. Don't get me wrong, I love the second project but my heart would rather write the sequel first. I know in most instances it is foolish to write a sequel for an unsold first book, but I also know from watching my CPs race to deliver romance sequels that romance is a different beast and sequels are more of an expectation.
Sorry--I am totally babbling and just so damned anxious, and looking for some no-nonsense direction, haha.
The only time I nudged a publisher around the three-month mark was when I had another offer, but wanted to go with the publisher who was taking longer to get back to me (and they were perfectly fine with me doing that).
