Gonna preface this with "I'm Big Queer so I know how to handle/interpret this, but I have no idea how cishets would handle/interpret this, so that's why I'm here." Also for the sake of not melting anyone's brains too much, I'm going to not bring up neo-pronouns. Also also I'm going to use "male/female presenting" to refer to how a character looks based on their cultural/species gender norms.
So I have some characters that have multiple sets of "valid" pronouns.
Or maybe the pronouns change across scenes/chapters, but the narrator sticks to one set per scene/chapter. Or different pronouns per context; irl example: I have a friend who uses it/its...but as you can imagine, some people are Real Assholes About It and also explaining itself to all of its coworkers is a huge pain, so it uses she/her in spaces like that to not rock the boat. No, I'm not going to put "my pronouns are...." badges/pins/ribbons on any of my characters, or trans flags, or "hi my name is CoolBird, my pronouns are...." moments. This is a book for adults, and also this is a fantasy world where stuff like this is Normal, so diegetically it wouldn't make any sense to have any "okay let me hold your hand and teach you how pronouns work" scenes.
So: would just organically using multiple/different pronouns for the same character come off as too confusing for people? Has anybody encountered such an issue in the wild and liked/disliked how it was handled? What do non-Queers actually KNOW about this topic??? I have only 2 cishet friends and none of them are writers so they're of no help lol.
So I have some characters that have multiple sets of "valid" pronouns.
- One is a dragon, who really does not care what you use (he/she/they/it) and has a dragon form that is not gender-identifiable (i.e. I did not put boobs or a ribbon or a mustache on it) and a male-presenting human form
- Another is a birb, who has a female-presenting birb form (if you can see UV, which 3/4 of the POV characters cannot, so she isn't gender-identifiable for humans) but a female-presenting human form and a feminine title, so she's she/her. But she does take on male-presenting forms sometimes for plot reasons, and the POV character might not realize that this dude is this specific birb (or they might figure it out halfway through the scene)
- And then there's this female-presenting dragon-thing, who I have written down as she/they for pronouns...but I've only used she/her in the text so far because I do not know how to handle using both without it being confusing for people who don't live this every day
A: Where did Bobbie go? I didn't see them leave
B: I think he went upstairs
C: Her phone rang, maybe she's taking a call?
D: Maybe it went to the bathroom?
Or maybe the pronouns change across scenes/chapters, but the narrator sticks to one set per scene/chapter. Or different pronouns per context; irl example: I have a friend who uses it/its...but as you can imagine, some people are Real Assholes About It and also explaining itself to all of its coworkers is a huge pain, so it uses she/her in spaces like that to not rock the boat. No, I'm not going to put "my pronouns are...." badges/pins/ribbons on any of my characters, or trans flags, or "hi my name is CoolBird, my pronouns are...." moments. This is a book for adults, and also this is a fantasy world where stuff like this is Normal, so diegetically it wouldn't make any sense to have any "okay let me hold your hand and teach you how pronouns work" scenes.
So: would just organically using multiple/different pronouns for the same character come off as too confusing for people? Has anybody encountered such an issue in the wild and liked/disliked how it was handled? What do non-Queers actually KNOW about this topic??? I have only 2 cishet friends and none of them are writers so they're of no help lol.