Need a recommendation!

Sassee · Apr 18, 2008

My friend is going through the initial stages of a divorce. Like... she just announced intentions to split today. It probably wasn't a shock to the husband as they've already gone through marriage counseling due to "issues", and we've been talking about it with her for a while ("we" being some of her friends), but anyway, back to the question.

Her day has been pretty drama filled. Guilt trips abound and she's literally worried herself sick. What kinds of thinks could she do, with or without friends, to take her mind off of things? (preferably healthier activities as opposed to getting piss drunk or some other such thing) Is there anything I can do to help, even if it's get out of the way?

Thoughts?

paprikapink · Apr 18, 2008

Me in this situation, I would love a blank journal and a beautiful pen. If a dear friend gave it to me with the intention of helping me through a rough time, I'd really use it too.

reigningcatsndogs · Apr 18, 2008

a trip to the spa might help, where she can relax and forget

a girls day away from it all might be nice

Having one of my friends come over and say 'come on, lets just go for the day (or the weekend)' would be awesome... just drive to someplace new and start her making new memories and seeing new stuff...

jannawrites · Apr 18, 2008

If she enjoys getting lost in movies, send her to the local theatre for a few showings. If books are more her thing, maybe perusing Barnes and Noble would help.

When I'm stressed, the process of shopping at someplace like Wal-Mart or Target soothes me. I don't have to buy; it's just the process of poring over clothes, housewares, what have you, that is so therapuetic to me.

Maybe this is all too trite, I don't know. But I wish the best for your friend, Sass.

Siddow · Apr 18, 2008

Getting drunk without some ugly, nameless man to take it out on is NO FUN.

If she's got kids, you could offer to take them off her hands for a bit so she can go through some emotional crap without them around.

If there's no kids, then she should be celebrating her new-found smarts.

threedogpeople · Apr 18, 2008

How about taking a tai chi class together? It will also help keep her mind off things, while class is in session, since you have to concentrate to learn the movements.

tjwriter · Apr 19, 2008

You could listen. No questions, no comments. Just ears.

People need someone to spill to without judgment or solutions.

Need a recommendation!

Sassee

Momma Wolf

paprikapink

Bored fanatic

reigningcatsndogs

Too sad for words.

jannawrites

no, really

Siddow

I'm super! Thanks for asking

threedogpeople

This is my BEST side!

tjwriter

Emerging Anew