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Okay, so, we've just bought our first house. This isn't story research, this is real life research, but I stuck it here in case anyone needs to write a house warming thing into their WIP.
My sister-in-law suggests we have a housewarming party. One, to let people see the new house, and two, to let them buy stuff for our new house. She suggests we do a gift registry with a furniture company and have people donate to it so we can buy a table, couches, whatever.
Now, I have a personal problem with this. I'm all for people coming over to see the house, and I'd gladly welcome any free-will donations, but I personally thing it's rude to *ask* them for something. (I consider gift registering as asking... otherwise, why would I have registered in the first place??) If I were the person coming to the party I would feel pressured to donate or bring something, and I definitely don't want to pressure anyone to spend money on us. That's the part I think is rude. (But then, I felt bad about sending out the registry things with our wedding invites, too.)
What's the general consensus here? Have you all had housewarming parties for yourselves? Did you do anything like what I described above? Have any of you been to a housewarming party and felt compelled to buy for/donate to the new owners? Am I being overly concerned or is it actually considered rude to do the registry thing? Generally, I would feel more comfortable doing something like a potluck or a game day, but I wanted to get some opinions first.
Thoughts?
My sister-in-law suggests we have a housewarming party. One, to let people see the new house, and two, to let them buy stuff for our new house. She suggests we do a gift registry with a furniture company and have people donate to it so we can buy a table, couches, whatever.
Now, I have a personal problem with this. I'm all for people coming over to see the house, and I'd gladly welcome any free-will donations, but I personally thing it's rude to *ask* them for something. (I consider gift registering as asking... otherwise, why would I have registered in the first place??) If I were the person coming to the party I would feel pressured to donate or bring something, and I definitely don't want to pressure anyone to spend money on us. That's the part I think is rude. (But then, I felt bad about sending out the registry things with our wedding invites, too.)
What's the general consensus here? Have you all had housewarming parties for yourselves? Did you do anything like what I described above? Have any of you been to a housewarming party and felt compelled to buy for/donate to the new owners? Am I being overly concerned or is it actually considered rude to do the registry thing? Generally, I would feel more comfortable doing something like a potluck or a game day, but I wanted to get some opinions first.
Thoughts?