A 2c effort from yours truly; all opinions expressed are IMHOs
When you post work for a critique, what do you expect? How do you expect it to be critiqued? What do you consider a good critique? What makes a critique bad?
Also, what are appropriate ways to respond to critiques? What are inappropriate ways?
What's the worst critique you have ever received? What's the best? Have you ever, in retrospect, been embarrassed by your own behavior?
My expectations changed vastly between the first time I posted my work for critique and now.
Back in August I mostly was hoping for judgement along the lines of "this works", in which case I was planning to continue, or "this does not work", in which case I planned to go back to my original programming. What I got were detailed crits along the lines of "tighten your dialogue," "your opening is cliche" and a lot of nitpicking over word choices. I agrued with about 50% of the comments, and took the other 50% to heart. Over time, as I continue working on my novel, I came to understand that the other 50% were also spot-on.
Those days I regard every single critique as a blessing.
The best one is a crit that tells me where my writing failed:
1) on the mechanical level of grammar and word-choice (I am not a native speaker, so this is a constant struggle),
2) on narrative level: i.e where the plot is not truly realized or too opaque, and where the characters lapse into being unlikable.
A bad critique is
1. one that praises lavishly, but suggests no ways to improve. While it might be nice to get a critique like that, it is not useful and often ends up being a disservice.
2. one that disagrees with the tone/content of work due to personal preference. My themes are not for everyone. The fact that a theme rubs a critter the wrong way may have nothing to do with the quality of the work. A wise critter recognizes this and steps back. Unfortunately, I have been both on the giving and the receiving end of this.
What is the best way to thank a critter? A thank you, a rep point, if lots of time and effort has been involved, a box of chocolate or a comparable bribe.
Have I evern been embarrassed by my own behavior? You bet. I argued with critters over very valid points they made, only to realize later that they were right. I critiqued where a critique was not asked for.
I guess some people are perfect from the beginning, but I am not one of them.
But I do my best to learn from mistakes.
The worst critiques I've ever gotten were all along the lines of "it's great, write more!" Those are wonderful to get, especially early on, but they don't help you improve one tiny bit. And there's not one writer out there who can't improve, at least a tiny bit.
Agree with every word you wrote!