How's your temper?

Where's the 'all of the above'?

And Orlando Bloom?

And Eggplant?

How can there be a serious poll without the required answers?

Me, “I’m almost always cool as a butterfly”, and then go quietly plan revenge.

I refuse to answer.

In other news, my childhood nickname was Popocatépetl.

(I've learned to breath deeper in my old age)

Cool Butterfly here. Except when I'm not.

Trust me. You'd know.

I voted for 'quietly seethe' but really I stay very calm until I pop a gasket. Probably not so good for the ticker.

I'm usually a calm person, but when I'm in a bad mood, I can be a real bitch. People usually know it's better to stay the hell away from me when I'm in a bad mood.

My childhood nickname was Lucifer.

I think bad tempers are too often excused away as a foible of our personality, when in fact it can be really hurtful to other people and inexcusable, and says there are some root issues that need dealing with.

Very recently I exploded at a dear friend and said a couple of crazy unwarranted things, and later it tore me apart. The fact that I hadn't slept properly for several nights and was running on the edge may have kind of contributed but wasn't an excuse. It made me realise the degree to which unresolved crap inside me was building up.

We do all have off days, but I've realised lately how often in my life I have been running on a short fuse. It's ugly, and something I'm determined to deal with.

"Why, I wouldn't even harm a fly." (Hehe...)

DamaNegra said:

I'm usually a calm person, but when I'm in a bad mood, I can be a real bitch. People usually know it's better to stay the hell away from me when I'm in a bad mood.

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That's exactly how I am. I can be really passive/agressive when I get mad but when I get a temper on, look out! It takes awhile for me to get worked up but I'm when I am, I turn into a total bitch...and no one is safe at that point.

Internalizing all my grief and anger seems to be the healthiest method for me.

*whispering to himself* Killthemkillthemallyesripthemapart. . .

No one ever has to say to me, "Is something bothering you?"

It takes a lot for me to really lose my cool, but when I do - look out. Even Jersey Guy says he gets a little scared when I lose my temper. Fortunately, it happens rarely - I can count on one hand how often I lose it.

I never used to have a temper....but lately I get a lot more moody and lash out at people oh well I'll deal.

I'm a quiet seether. If I flip out on you...then, wow, you really did something to make me mad.

Unless you are in my family, in which case, I have a much worst temper.

Jersey Chick said:

No one ever has to say to me, "Is something bothering you?"

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Because it's obvious?

Jersey Chick said:

I can count on one hand how often I lose it.

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But is that in a day, a week, a month, a year?

If I get really mad, which doesn't happen often, I quietly seethe. I don't yell, I sometimes cry, but now having dry eyes, it doesn't let me cry too often.

It takes a tremendous amount of frustration to really get me mad, but even when I do, most folks wouldn't know it. A few mild cuss words tells them when it's not a good time to bother me.

Most people know not to mess with me.

Quietly seethe. I mull it over for a long, long time until I work through it, then let it go without saying anything. Just don't back me into a corner 'cause I won't stay there. My husband swears my eyes turn red when I get really mad. Never checked so I have to take his word on it.

southernwriter said:

Because it's obvious?

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Very much so - I slam doors, swear under my breath, throw things on occasion.

But is that in a day, a week, a month, a year?

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That's in 36 years. It takes a lot for me to blow my stack - I get annoyed easily, but almost never lose my temper. Bad things happen when I do.