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Afinerosesheis
11-15-2007, 01:42 AM
Some of us here are harried parents which leaves slim to no time for writing. Every now and then I try unconventional methods to get through to my kids. Sometimes it works, sometimes not, but anything is worth a try.

Today I found a two-way note in my daughters backpack that oozed with drama. She is ten and apparantly she and her "BFF" have had some issues. Accusations left and right, scribbled out, they're both going to tell their mommies. A boy's name was mentioned, the fur flew.

Yep, you heard right...ten.

I never had these issues with my son, but this girly-girl drama is like a train wreck at 2AM. There is no stopping it.

SO, I took a red crayon and wrote "Drama is dumb, you are not" and taped it in the hallway where she would pass it several times a day. She may not read it, but she knows it's there. I told her I would remove it when the drama went bye-bye.

Share your whacky parenting tips, maybe we can all learn a thing or two and get down to some writing!

JLCwrites
11-15-2007, 01:48 AM
I have two toddlers, and I live in an area that gets a lot of rain. So I kept my eldest's old crib mattress, and put it on the floor in the game room. Then, when they are getting too hyper, we go to the game room, play some rock music and jump up and down on the mattress. Lots of fun for those rainy days.

SpookyWriter
11-15-2007, 02:03 AM
I have two toddlers, and I live in an area that gets a lot of rain. So I kept my eldest's old crib mattress, and put it on the floor in the game room. Then, when they are getting too hyper, we go to the game room, play some rock music and jump up and down on the mattress. Lots of fun for those rainy days.Hey, I do the same thing with the two homeless guys down the road. Cool.

Devil Ledbetter
11-15-2007, 02:28 AM
I did a word-war with my 10 year old the other day while I was working on my NaNo novel and she was writing a 600-word DAR essay.

I save boxes and paper-towel tubes for my 6-year-old and keep him supplied with tape and staples. So far he's build a bi-plane, several sailboats and a racecar. Right now he is lying quietly on the floor, cutting up a Gardetto's box.

Perks
11-15-2007, 02:29 AM
Most of my parenting is based on yelling, "Whaddaya, dumb?"

nancy sv
11-15-2007, 02:54 AM
Ummm... we make our 8-year-old twins pedal their way around the world. That cuts down a little bit on the excessive running around and hyperactivity. (A little bit.)

Maryn
11-15-2007, 03:07 AM
I used to tape various lessons next to the sink or toilet, or high on the shower wall. That's how my kids know what a gerund is, Morse code, the difference between lay and lie, how to count in binary, Roman numerals, plus lots more.

On the occasions when they'd have a guest overnight, those lessons came down. So embarrassing!

Maryn, who figured that was her job, embarrassing her kids

KTC
11-15-2007, 03:30 AM
I have a whatever it takes philosophy. I use whacked and zany...whatever comes to mind at the time. For my 19 year old, I tell her to call if she's out at night and others have been drinking and she needs a ride home. Then, when she gets in the car...I set the egg timer on the dash and say, "Dollar a minute...let's go."

My soon to be 12 year old...when he's down and in the dumps (say angry that he didn't score a goal at his hockey game) I use the sure fire way of making him happy. I take him for one of our magical RED NECK SHOT PUT outings. What is that, you may ask? That's when we fill the truck with garbage and take it to the dump. We get to throw things into big bins of other things. We like to find glass things to throw...makes the shot puttin' so much funner. What if we don't have garbage? Make some. Declutter...he needs to smile.

I have all sorts of things. I pay them for stuff all the time and I'm not ashamed to admit it. They get $50 per A on any and all report cards. (This is in sharp contrast to my parents never looking at my report card) I motivate with money. Nothing wrong with that. My son saves every penny...his bank account is probably bigger than mine.

Whatever it takes people. They are the only things of value in our life...besides our dog.

jennifer75
11-15-2007, 03:34 AM
Mine is only 5, so we have it pretty easy (Ack did I just say EASY?)
.... so far if he argues something or doesn't want to do something, I do the same.

Oh, you're not gonna talk to me? Well, I'm not gonna talk to you. He hates that.

Oh, you're mad? I'm mad. You don't want to go, ok, we'll stay home and do nothing. ALL DAY.

It works for now.

KTC
11-15-2007, 03:36 AM
Yes. And I loved when reverse psychology worked. Sadly, that was years ago for me. I think I'm getting to the age where they're beginning to use it successfully on me. )-;

Carole
11-15-2007, 03:48 AM
Oooh. I've used some pretty unconventional parenting techniques!

When they were little:

If they got into a fight, I'd make them sit on the floor facing one another and make them look eachother in the eyes. It never took long before they were making faces and laughing.

Another one for fighting - make them hug and then make them kiss eachother smack on the face. They HATED that.

Of course, I was never too proud to use good old fashioned guilt, either. I've told them many times, "You guys are all you've got. Dad and I? We'll be gone some day. Your brother is your only true friend in the world." I'd follow that with a very sad, pitiful mommy face.

But the prize for best parenting method for fighting EVER has to go to my hubby. My boys came into his life at the tender ages of 8 and 10. Boy, did he get a crash course! One day they were fighting - imagine that - and he broke them up. He told them to go get their swimming trunks on and he took them to the pool. He tossed them into the shallow end and said something to the effect of, "Now you can finish your fight, but you can only use your legs." They really went at it...for about two minutes. :D

Now, if only I could get some creative parenting methods for 20 year olds. I'm just drawing a blank these days.

The_Grand_Duchess
11-15-2007, 03:55 AM
My daughter is growing a little dependent on the tv. Now she asks to watch it in the morning. In an effort to get her dressed and lessen her dependency she can watch the tv BUT I'm not turning the channel so whatever is on from the night before is what she gets in the morning.

Sometimes it's cartoons. Sometimes it's other things.

KTC
11-15-2007, 04:01 AM
We should have a 'whacky way kids get around the rules made by crazed parents' thread. I just remembered something.

We were going to be different. NO GUNS of any kind for our boy. At the age of...God, I want to say 2 but maybe it was 3...at any rate it was really friggin' young...he fashioned a hand gun out of a peanut butter sandwich, by eating it into shape...pointed the barrel at me, cocked the trigger and fired. That's when we allowed the word MODERATION to rear its ugly head.

Afinerosesheis
11-15-2007, 04:24 AM
I really like the way this thread has taken off. After all the serious threads and firestorms, this is a nice change. =)

I use the "You guys are all you've got. Dad and I? We'll be gone some day. Your brother is your only true friend in the world." I'd follow that with a very sad, pitiful mommy face. many times. =)
They don't seem to care at all, so I guess that one isn't working too well.

My daughter has the drama BS going, my son just turned thirteen...he acts older. He talks about girls a lot. I just cringe. This teenage stuff is like wandering into a frightening foreign land and you have NO idea where you're going! Of course I remember being a teenager quite clearly, but somehow it just doesn't prepare you for the road to adolesence your child now walks.
The afore mentioned drama is about as bad. I didn't pull that crap until at least high school and even then I don't remember it being so dramatic.

Fifty bucks for an A? Shhhh! Don't tell my kids. They get forty some less bucks than that! =)

I have read every post and have enjoyed myself. I can tell AW has a whole array of savvy parents. =)

Carry on....

Carole
11-15-2007, 04:38 AM
I use the "You guys are all you've got. Dad and I? We'll be gone some day. Your brother is your only true friend in the world." I'd follow that with a very sad, pitiful mommy face. many times. =)
They don't seem to care at all, so I guess that one isn't working too well.


Oh, you have to crank it a little tighter then. Be melodramatic. Over the top. Show them just how "frightened" you are that they can even dream of fighting with their siblings.

I can still see their wide-eyed expressions. Sure, they probably wandered off to their room to talk about how mommy was losing it, but at least they walked off together. Ha! I won! At least those battles.

Carole
11-15-2007, 04:45 AM
Oh! I just remembered another. My boys were usually very good in public. I can't remember even one tantrum in a store and they learned at a very early age never to beg for anything. They were actually very well-mannered when it came to shopping.

Usually the trouble happened in the car on the way home. Picking at one another or whatever. Now, my ex and I had an agreement. We did spank them, but never in anger. The rule was to cool off so that the spanking was just that and wasn't used to get your anger out.

So when they acted up, we'd tell them, "Ok - you know how you acted, now go sit on my bed and wait. I'll be up to spank you in a little while." They would go wide-eyed again and maybe even sniffle a little. Good Lord, it's not like we ever beat them. But they always had that healthy fear! Muaaahaahaa. Anyway, so up they'd go to my bed and they'd wait.

And wait.

And wait.

I swear, Daniel actually came to the top of the stairs once to ask if I was ready yet. It really must have worked a number on them. So by the time I got up there, they had definitely already had their punishment and all they ever got was a little whack on the backside.

*shrugs* It worked for a while. :D

DamaNegra
11-15-2007, 05:00 AM
*takes notes*

JLCwrites
11-15-2007, 05:00 AM
:)

I agree with Mr. C. Being a parent is all about winging it. You adapt and learn, then adapt again. It's not that you don't establish boundaries, but that you learn the best way to establish them with each individual child.

nessam
11-15-2007, 05:28 AM
I have taken masking tape and taped my daughter to a chair so she would finish her homework. After she was done she stood up and it all ripped off. It has never worked again.

Tymolee
11-15-2007, 06:13 AM
My son is not a morning person. I thought I was bad about mornings, until I had him. I'm not even in his stratosphere when it comes to not being a morning person. So when we're really having a bad morning, it's race time. "I bet I can get dressed quicker than you can!" "I bet I can put on my shoes faster!", "I bet I can let the dog out, feed the cat, fill the pellet stove quicker than you can find your bookbag/grab a granola bar/comb your hair!".

As long as I can make mornings a game, I can usually avoid The Crabby. Usually.

And right now, he's really into Star Wars. Sometimes I'm Darth Vader in the mornings and he's a Storm Trooper. Sometimes I'm Palpatine and he's Darth. Occasionally I try and jedi mind trick him (that has yet to work).

jannawrites
11-15-2007, 06:40 AM
If they got into a fight, I'd make them sit on the floor facing one another and make them look eachother in the eyes. It never took long before they were making faces and laughing.



Oh, I've got to remember this. They're two and four, so I'll have to wait another year or so for it to work with the littlest.


My four-year-old was having a rotten day a few months ago, whining and complaining. And I had a migraine. So we stood facing each other and blew raspberries as crazy loud as we could, to blow away all the ickies. It helped her mood... though I can't say it did anything for my migraine.

Making chores into a game always helps. I had the four-year-old help put her clothes away. I'd toss her an item and tell her which drawer it went in. We had a race to see how quickly she could get everything in the dresser.

The two-year-old is pretty darn well behaved. And she seems to understand reason better than Big Sister.

Shadow_Ferret
11-15-2007, 07:30 AM
I give my kids candy and soda before they go off to school. That way they get all their energy off there and they're calm when I get them that evening. I mean, the teacher is there to take care of them anyway, right?