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Bit of background to this question.
This evening I told a friend about the last book I bought - Unbreakable: My life with Paul - A story of extraordinary courage and love by Lindsey Hunter.
F***ing tragic tale. I flicked forward a few chapters and it made me cry. Anyway. I told my friend that contained in the book is a lover letter she wrote Paul after he died.
My friend said, "After he died? What's the point of that?" Almost in a sneering way, like it was a stupid idea.
And so I told her, "To help her grieve, of course!" I mean, a normally intelligent woman who, although not a writer herself, cannot understand the therapeutic benefits of writing yourself through your darkest times? Lindsey Hunter wrote the book (with a ghost, admittedly) and that in itself probably helped ease her pain a little. I certainly hope it did. I was a fan of her husband's and only got to see him play once. But at least I did that much.
But anyway...this 'friend' I spoke to - the same one who alleges you cannot call yourself a writer unless you're published - just didn't get it.
*sigh*
Time for some spring-cleaning in my social circle, I think.
This conversation presented me with the idea for this thread: do you write letters to people in your life and then not send them? Do you write to people knowing they will never read your words, but still addressing your works to them anyway?
I certainly do that with letters. If you're a part of my life in any meaningful way, chances are I've written to you and not sent the letter. It enables me to get my feelings out, to articulate and understand them, without having to freak out, scare or smother the other person. I write. It's what I do. I love it.
Also, poems. Almost every poem I've ever written has been about, for, or inspired by someone whose presence in my life has had an impact.
What about you?
This evening I told a friend about the last book I bought - Unbreakable: My life with Paul - A story of extraordinary courage and love by Lindsey Hunter.
F***ing tragic tale. I flicked forward a few chapters and it made me cry. Anyway. I told my friend that contained in the book is a lover letter she wrote Paul after he died.
My friend said, "After he died? What's the point of that?" Almost in a sneering way, like it was a stupid idea.
And so I told her, "To help her grieve, of course!" I mean, a normally intelligent woman who, although not a writer herself, cannot understand the therapeutic benefits of writing yourself through your darkest times? Lindsey Hunter wrote the book (with a ghost, admittedly) and that in itself probably helped ease her pain a little. I certainly hope it did. I was a fan of her husband's and only got to see him play once. But at least I did that much.
But anyway...this 'friend' I spoke to - the same one who alleges you cannot call yourself a writer unless you're published - just didn't get it.
*sigh*
Time for some spring-cleaning in my social circle, I think.
This conversation presented me with the idea for this thread: do you write letters to people in your life and then not send them? Do you write to people knowing they will never read your words, but still addressing your works to them anyway?
I certainly do that with letters. If you're a part of my life in any meaningful way, chances are I've written to you and not sent the letter. It enables me to get my feelings out, to articulate and understand them, without having to freak out, scare or smother the other person. I write. It's what I do. I love it.
Also, poems. Almost every poem I've ever written has been about, for, or inspired by someone whose presence in my life has had an impact.
What about you?