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travelgal
09-06-2007, 11:42 AM
Yep, inspired by the thread "Who did you go to school with?", I'm curious. Obviously.;) There's an episode in CSI where Warwick has a run-in with a school bully: Warwick the hunky dude with the gorgeous eyes got beat up all the time, Sarah was the science nerd and Katherine the bully.

I had to the misfortune to have a younger, prettier, more popular sister in my year, and boy, did we get compared/ our names mixed up all the time (we don't look alike). I'm grateful we didn't go to a school with boys.

I was the awkward nerd forever lost in Doctor Who land who knew obcsure and not-so obscure stuff the other girls didn't have a clue about, and that included my best friend, who was known as "The Brain."

scarletpeaches
09-06-2007, 11:50 AM
I was the loner. There were two girls I hung around with but that was by default, because no-one else would be their friend. One started mixing with the in-crowd and that took priority over us other two outcasts.

I had messy hair, bad skin, glasses and the worse thing of all - a brain. I was called a swot, but I never did any revising. I sailed through all tests and exams without even trying, so you can imagine the piss-taking I got for that. Picked last for teams during P.E., never had a boyfriend, boys only asked me out for a dare to see if I'd fall for it...it was during this time I perfected my 'fuck off' stare which today can make a grown man's balls shrivel (trust me. My last boyfriend said I had that effect on him).

So, my brain, my appearance and my lack of friends conspired to drive me even more deeply into the world of books and I still feel like a schoolgirl on occasions. Hated, hated, hated every single day of high school and couldn't wait to leave. I came out of it all with virtually no self-esteem and still have issues along those lines today, fifteen years later.

EriRae
09-06-2007, 12:12 PM
Wow SP...that's me. Too bad we didn't live in the same country and go to the same school. We could've been the coolest girls there, together (even if we were the only ones who believed it).

I was a loner. I still have crazy naturally curly hair and fought acne until a few years ago (not because it went away, but because I found benzoil peroxide). I got contacts in junior high, but my eyes changed shape my freshman year and my mom refused to pay for more contacts until I was a junior... :( back to glasses. Seemed like forever.

SP can probably run mental circles around me, though...I was good at school, but not THAT good.

I've taken back my self esteem, only because I had it beaten from me by an abusive college boyfriend. I will not be a victim again!

Azraelsbane
09-06-2007, 12:17 PM
Elementary: Bully
7-8th: "Cool kid" aka, hung out with all the bad boys
9-12th: Loser intellectual...gotta pay for college somehow ;)

College-The Duke Years: The Fun One/The Will Edit Your Papers For Money One
College- The Everywhere Else Years: Gamer/Bum

akiwiguy
09-06-2007, 12:36 PM
A few years ago a former teacher, by then very old, was discussing our class with a friend, and apparently I terrified the shit out of maths teachers because I was kind of gifted and they didn't have a clue what I was on about. I did love and devour maths and physics. Something that surprised me was that he said that our class was the standout of his entire career.

I was the class clown, always entertaining people with my bufoonery, and I think quite deliberately worked on a bit of a bad image maybe to counter the risk of seeming too academic. By say sixteen I was really quite bored with it all and was hanging out with a genuinely rough crowd doing way too much drugs and alcohol. Something that was really bizarre at our school, and teachers apparently look back at that era with bewilderment, were these ongoing racial wars we'd be having. Nearly every lunchtime all the Maori kids would be in one big group, all the Pakeha in another and then at some point it was guaranteed to be all on, everyone in. I hated violence, but always seemed to be on the periphery of it.

I think if you're from a pretty dysfunctional family and have big issues (fuck, looking back I can't believe the mess my head was in) the shit will eventually hit the fan, and it did with me big time.

Mandy-Jane
09-06-2007, 12:50 PM
I was the shy one. Hardly any friends, softly spoken, low self-esteem, victim of bullies, glasses, etc. Yuk Yuk Yuk. Always got school reports that said "Mandy needs to make more of an effort to contribute to class discussion." "Mandy has great potential, but needs to speak up." "Mandy needs to be more confident" and on it went.

I still liked school though. I liked learning, not socialising.

akiwiguy
09-06-2007, 01:50 PM
never had a boyfriend, boys only asked me out for a dare to see if I'd fall for it...
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I came out of it all with virtually no self-esteem and still have issues along those lines today, fifteen years later.



I was a loner. I still have crazy naturally curly hair and fought acne until a few years ago (not because it went away, but because I found benzoil peroxide).


It's strange how lack of self esteem gets masked in so many different ways. If I'd have had any self esteem I think I'd have been doing the obvious thing and asking out the quieter more academic girls in the class with whom I'd have actually had some real compatibility. The really weird thing is, the same girls who were sitting there feeling left out, I was probably thinking "shit, they're just so straight and together, they wouldn't want a bar of of a fucked up idiot like me."

A lot of "cool" behaviour is exactly the same lack of self esteem coming out in a totally different way. I found it easy to socialise when I was in a crowd who were all loaded with substances. But underlying it all can be quite intense self-loathing.

In about my mid-twenties I had a real revelation, a paradigm shift that happened one day in an instance. I was in a drug/alcohol rehabilitation group that was made up of people from every imgaginable background. From high-ranking bankers, to people with pretty serious criminal histories. And I suddenly realised that we were actually all the same. If you took anyone's hopes, loves, fears, inner struggles... there was actually no difference. We were all just people wearing different masks. I can't say it totally healed me, but it is something that I still hold quite close in the way that I view other people.

I think the struggle to really accept and love who we are is perhaps the most universal ill within mankind. Yet it's odd how we think we're the only one afflicted with it. Then we have one of those moments when someone who we've always perceived as the most together person imaginable spills their guts, and we think "Fuck, I jsut never would have thought...". Sometimes a brief true intimacy, till we all decide, "Fuck, what was all that about?", and on the masks go again. Smile.

ErylRavenwell
09-06-2007, 02:34 PM
You know what my high school nickname was? The Postman. Because I carried an "indestructible" leather bag that looked just like a postman's. Hehe.

Like that

http://www.bslhome.com/shop/thumb/sheets/513273/leather-postman-bags.jpg



I still have crazy naturally curly hair

You make it sounds like it is a bad thing. Naturally curly hair are nice. And Erin, that's gotta be my-yet-to-be-born future daughter's name. Either that or Beryl. ;)

EriRae
09-06-2007, 02:42 PM
You make it sounds like it is a bad thing. Naturally curly hair are nice. And Erin, that's gotta be my-yet-to-be-born future daughter's name. Either that or Beryl. ;)

LOL--no seriously, it's CRAZY. As in my mom kept it military short until I was in high school. Once I grew it out, I didn't have the right product (gel), so it was CRAZY. I also have enough hair for three people. I shave the back part from just above my ear. Can't even tell. Still looks like I have too much hair.

I used to pretend that all the girls were just so JEALOUS of me that they made fun of me and put me down...and then I'd just cry some more.

Erin and Beryl are beautiful names :) Hope you use 'em both!

ETA: My avatar is not an average day...that's as good as it gets. It's usually much CRAZIER than that.

ErylRavenwell
09-06-2007, 03:09 PM
I used to pretend that all the girls were just so JEALOUS of me that they made fun of me and put me down...and then I'd just cry some more.



Damn right they were jealous...because they had "unstylable", plain hair. My hair is about like yours (raven-black hair though and much shorter of course). The hairdresser always compliments about my hair.

And Medusa rules.

EriRae
09-06-2007, 03:20 PM
Damn right they were jealous...because they had "unstylable", plain hair. My hair is about like yours (raven-black hair though and much shorter of course). The hairdresser always compliments about my hair.

And Medusa rules.

Agreed, Medusa rules :)

"Wow, you've got a lot of hair," is my usual hairdresser comment. And then I show them that the back is shaved.

ErylRavenwell
09-06-2007, 03:24 PM
"Wow, you've got a lot of hair," is my usual hairdresser comment.

Jebus, she told me the same thing. Did she massage your hair as well?

EriRae
09-06-2007, 03:30 PM
Jebus, she told me the same thing. Did she massage your hair as well?

No, but I did have one girl ask another girl to come take a look, and then they decided that girl #2 would be the better choice to cut my hair, b/c girl #1 was too afraid! LOL--girl #2 is my regular hairdresser now :)

ErylRavenwell
09-06-2007, 03:34 PM
No, but I did have one girl ask another girl to come take a look, and then they decided that girl #2 would be the better choice to cut my hair, b/c girl #1 was too afraid! LOL--girl #2 is my regular hairdresser now :)


I see; they need a skilled hairdresser to deal with the snakes in our hair. Proof of our superiority over the common of mortals. ;)

acharity
09-06-2007, 03:35 PM
Hmmmmm...

Elementary school: The Tomboy (: Popular, I guess, I talked to everyone and everyone talked with me *rubs chin*

Middle school: The nerd. I was always so worried about being late to class and not getting good marks, etc. I didn't really pay attention to my clothes (sometimes went with my shirt inside out, lol) or makeup or anything... I wore my glasses all the time even though I didn't really have to (and they weren't trendy glasses). I had my clique of friends... I talked with everyone but only felt comfortable with my group. Out of the... eight of us? I talk with one- that is me best friend ^^

High school: 9-10, meh, same as middle school! 11-12, I paid more attention to my apperance, lightened up over being late (sometimes it just can't be helped!) and made more friends (:

Uni: In my third year now... ugh, I start today! But I'm very mellow... I make friends easily and find the work tedious. Blech! Stupid expenses... but I want that paper -_- I'd like to think that I'm well liked but I guess I don't really know. I'm pretty quiet, unless I'm with people I know, and I have a soft voice. A lot of people have told me that I tend to appear snobbish until they get to know me... hmmmmmm... ah well ^^ It is better to have one great friend than to have hundreds of mere acquaintances.

David McAfee
09-06-2007, 03:39 PM
I was the kid everyone cheated off of (I know the grammar is terrible, but I just woke up).

plnelson
09-06-2007, 04:36 PM
Hmmm . . .

What were/are you . . . ?

The ontological implications of this are stunning! And "in school", no less! This implies that we are are/were different things in different places. Do other things have this property? Does my Apple 80G iPod suddenly become, oh, say, an invitation to a Rosh Hashanah dinner, as soon as I arrive at work? (conceivably an iPhone could do this...). If I tell someone at their Rosh Hashanah dinner that I am a software engineer, is this different from saying I do software engineering (or at least I appear to when my boss is looking)? What are we, moment-to-moment, anyway? If you go to school and eat lunch in the school cafeteria and take a dump in the school lavatory, you are now different than when you got on the bus that morning. And over a lifetime so many cells in your body have died and new ones made that scarcely any of you is the same. It's "grandfather's axe", applied to grandfather himself - we hope not literally - that would be gross. "This is Grandfather's axe, the one he used to clear the land to build this house. Of course, since that time, we've replaced the head and the handle, but it still occupies the same space . . . "

Does this answer your question?

NeuroFizz
09-06-2007, 04:47 PM
jock/nerd turned nerd/jock

I was a basketball junkie, starting forward on our conference co-championship team. My girlfriend was a cheerleader. But, I did really well in the classroom, so I was never more than on the fringe of the "popular group." Fortunately, it didn't steer me away from the studies (dumb down to be more popular). I was a sort-of class clown, but in the nerd classes, I'm not sure my humor would have been universal enough to escape down the hall.

Jock/nerdism continued throught Community College--starting 2-guard, and good in the classroom. I joined a "service organization" which was just a glorified term for an unofficial fraternity, and I went heavy into partying. Schoolwork held up through it, and I discovered my vocational love--Biology. I wasn't good enough of a basketball player to go to the major college level, so the nerd took over, and took me through grad school.

The jock resurfaced on my first job (but still was dwarfed by the nerd)--helped form a faculty-staff basketball group (made it a formal organization so we could reserve university facilities), and for twenty years, played 1 1/2 hours of hard full-court basketball three days a week (12 months a year). Had to quit ultimately because my knees told me it was time.

Now, I'm comfortable in my nerdism, and I stay in shape with low-impact aerobic exercise and moderate weight work. I also shoot hoops in the driveway with Little Fizzy (2nd grade). Fizzette (Kindergarten) hasn't shown an interest in b-ball yet--she's into performance arts. It'll be interesting to see where they fit in school society when their time comes.

Namatu
09-06-2007, 04:48 PM
I'm not sure what I was in school, but it wasn't popular. I was somehow on the periphery of a lot of groups, quiet, shy, and (I realized later) bored. I prefer small groups to big ones and I tend to not want to do what everyone else wants to do (contrary, yes). I was always interested in "weird" things in high school, like archaeology. :rolleyes: Being contrary, I embraced the weird label until I got out of school, when I cast it aside and decided I would no longer accept for myself the judgments of narrowminded others.

Namatu
09-06-2007, 05:01 PM
Oh yeah, where am I? I am who I was then, only without the strictures of a claustrophobic high school social structure, more self-confidence, and a well-developed "bitch face." (Scarlet and I should compare one day. I've seen myself in the mirror when wearing bitch face and it scares even me.) I have been called a superior, condescending bitch by friends so I suspect I may come off as a bit intimidating until you get to know me or, uh, even after you get to know me? But I'm nice! Really! I just don't tolerate crap well.

CaroGirl
09-06-2007, 05:11 PM
I was the awkward, shy, wall-flower girl. What was her name again? Too skinny, too tall, and too clever. I went to classes, did my work, and sat home watching tv every Friday and Saturday night (and every other night, too).

ajkjd01
09-06-2007, 05:23 PM
We hear all the stereotypes of high school all the time, and I've been sitting here trying to decide which one I fit into...

I went to a small midwestern high school, where I was a major band geek (played two different instruments and spent my senior year as the field commander for the marching band. I also play piano.) and three sport athlete at the same time.

I must also admit to being the editor of the school newspaper and in national honor society, as well as being on several quiz/academic decathlon type teams, spanish club, and other nerdy pursuits.

I wasn't the queen bee of popularity, but I knew everyone and got along with most of them. I wasn't the homecoming queen, or the class president, but never really got picked on past the beginning of freshman year (and don't we all get picked on then?). I had boyfriends, but wasn't the serial dater that some girls were.

If nothing else, I was TIRED in high school, because I was the obsessive overacheiver.

sunna
09-06-2007, 05:26 PM
elementary school - tomboy and class poet, which in that crowd definitely made me a nerd. I hated brushing my hair and got into fights probably once a month; I had a mean right. :)
middle school - nerdy but not shy; I just didn't care much about my appearance, and I got good grades, which wasn't cool back then. also, if I recall correctly, got into fights. they just usually ended up being boyfriends (and one girlfriend) before or after the fact.
high school - theatre geek, track & field jock, AP/honors nerd, general thorn in the side of the administration.

So, basically, weird. That hasn't changed much.

cray
09-06-2007, 05:27 PM
*cartwheels nekkid through the thread*










i was the streaker :D

Roger J Carlson
09-06-2007, 05:34 PM
I was in school for 12 years. I've been out of school for 3 times that long. I don't think it matters anymore.

maestrowork
09-06-2007, 06:31 PM
I was a student.

kikazaru
09-06-2007, 06:43 PM
I was pretty, tall, blond and curvy but also bookish and very shy, so of course I was labeled a stuck up bitch by all the guys. When I had to get glasses I was thrilled, and wore them like a shield. Funny thing was, I had some very good girl friends but the only guys that ever asked me out were the jerks!

BardSkye
09-06-2007, 08:13 PM
The weird kid everyone left strictly alone. They found out early on, if I wanted revenge for something they did, it would come out of left field, when they were least expecting it, probably employing some snippet of information they never thought could be used as a weapon.

It made for a peaceful life.

reigningcatsndogs
09-06-2007, 08:13 PM
Seriously, my nickname in highschool was Che, chosen for me by the faculty in Grade 10. I'd LIKE to think the point was to get other kids to open a book and learn who Che was. One fellow student actually commented, totally in earnest, that he didn't really think I was hairy enough to be considered a gorilla, and was a bit offended I was called that (umm, he was not on the honour roll).

I was yearbook editor in final year, unti I sort of ...flamboyantly quit in March to protest that... actually, it doesn't matter. It was MANY MANY years ago.

Katol
09-06-2007, 08:15 PM
Glasses, braces on my teeth, way too serious. Decades later discovered "Friends re-united" and no one wanted to talk to me! Wanted to scream - hey guys, I wear contacts, the teeth are great and I found a sense of humour. Only time I got a bit of street-cred at school was by earning myself a detention for talking in assembly and losing my music honours by giving up choir. I cringe just thinking of myself at school! Think I need a drink!

Cath

III
09-06-2007, 08:29 PM
I was pretty shy all the way through high school, but had a close group of friends. Never had ANY interest in the popular crowd - they seemed so vapid. I think Wayne's World was a documentary on me and my high school buddies.

In college I was a menace 2 society.

JLCwrites
09-07-2007, 01:08 AM
http://www.hrwiki.org/images/f/f4/TeenGirlSquad13.png

Or maybe I was So and So.... I forget. Does it, like, really matter?

acharity
09-07-2007, 01:42 AM
Nope! And today was my first day back at classes... it's easy to see who the new kids are... the poor souls lugging around giant bags, not realizing that it's only intro the first few days (: the most you need is a piece of paper and a pen. Poor newbies. And it was so flipping hot out ~_~ like 33 degrees... thankfully there was no humidity.

RLB
09-07-2007, 01:59 AM
I was the funny, brainy one. Drama Club Treasurer, National Honor Society, valedictorian. I hung out with all different groups I guess. I had some jock friends- mostly soccer players. Never got on much with the cheerleaders though. Dated the same guy all through high school (college ended that). I did have a wonderful core group of friends, which made my high school years fun.

Goodness. How little it matters now!

robeiae
09-07-2007, 02:04 AM
In college? Drunk.

scarletpeaches
09-07-2007, 02:15 AM
I was pretty shy all the way through high school, but had a close group of friends. Never had ANY interest in the popular crowd - they seemed so vapid. I think Wayne's World was a documentary on me and my high school buddies.

In college I was a menace 2 society.

Don't be a menace II society while drinkin' your juice in the hood, bro'.

Cassiopeia
09-07-2007, 02:17 AM
*stalks scarletpeaches* :)

scarletpeaches
09-07-2007, 02:18 AM
:Jaw:

I just did a fright-wee. :cry:

Cassiopeia
09-07-2007, 02:22 AM
:Jaw:

I just did a fright-wee. :cry:ohhhh poor scarlet. *hands her a new nappy. *wait*

I mean A nappy...not that she wears them already!

*looks around* OH HELL!

*makes a run for it. ;)

michelle25
09-07-2007, 06:00 AM
I think the struggle to really accept and love who we are is perhaps the most universal ill within mankind.

I like this - actually, the whole post attached to it. I remember when I was in school I wanted nothing more than to get out in the real world because getting to do what I wanted seemed more appealing than having to listen to lectures and be with people who viewed school as a way of putting off the real world. This probably doesn't answer the question exactly but it came to mind. I've probably also strayed from the 'accepting who we are' idea too, but I think it's interesting because finding our place seems to continue both in school and beyond. At least for me.

Bravo
09-07-2007, 06:01 AM
the beauty queen.

scarletpeaches
09-07-2007, 06:02 AM
ohhhh poor scarlet. *hands her a new nappy. *wait*

I mean A nappy...not that she wears them already!

*looks around* OH HELL!

*makes a run for it. ;)

At least you said 'nappy' and not 'diaper'! :D

JoNightshade
09-07-2007, 06:20 AM
Grade school: After a couple years in a really wonderful tiny arty private school, I got dumped into public school. I was about a grade ahead of everyone in my class so everyone hated me instantly. I was the loner all of the bullies picked on. So I made friends with the other people who had no friends, mainly the special ed kids and the kids whose families were so messed up they couldn't function normally. Once full-inclusion started in CA, I became best friends with the retarded kid in a wheelchair. I hated gradeschool, but being a total reject gave me a sense of compassion I wouldn't trade for anything.

Junior High: At the end of grade school, I made a friend. A SMART friend, like me. And for some reason, people liked her. I stuck to her like glue and we remained best friends throughout high school.

High school: I became the outspoken star wars nerd. I think people could live with the smart, and they could live with the nerdy, but for some reason I just DID NOT KNOW WHEN TO KEEP MY TRAP SHUT. I needed everyone to know exactly what I believed and why. Ugh. No wonder I wasn't popular.

College: I learned how to speak only when it really matters. I became the attractive intellectual English major who smart boys WANTED TO DATE. I still have no idea how that happened.

robeiae
09-07-2007, 06:23 AM
the beauty queen.
Funny. That's what Deek was in jail.

EriRae
09-07-2007, 06:25 AM
College: I learned how to speak only when it really matters. I became the attractive intellectual English major who smart boys WANTED TO DATE. I still have no idea how that happened.

I do...gaming :) Oh, wait...you just started that...never mind http://www.absolutewrite.com/forums/images/icons/icon10.gif

writerterri
09-07-2007, 06:29 AM
I was avoided. It was probably that poodle perm my mom gave me at home.

And if you teased me I slept with your boyfriend. :hi:

robeiae
09-07-2007, 06:30 AM
I didn't have a boyfriend.

writerterri
09-07-2007, 06:33 AM
I didn't have a boyfriend.


No, but your girlfriend did. And I slept with her too.

robeiae
09-07-2007, 06:35 AM
Okay by me. Lord knows, I did everything I could to scare her away, myself...

Devil Ledbetter
09-07-2007, 07:04 AM
I was Jennifer Jason Leigh in Fast Times at Ridgemont High, pretty much.

Except I didn't sleep with any skanky drug dealers.

Cassiopeia
09-07-2007, 09:31 PM
At least you said 'nappy' and not 'diaper'! :Dwell, I am not JUST an American. :D

C.bronco
09-07-2007, 09:46 PM
High school was fun. I was much like a Luna Lovegood, except a bit more sociable. I think I made a lot of friends from different groups, and some good friends as well. The same people who would walk up to me and ask "Why are you so weird?" would hang out with me too. I don't think I fit into any other basic category. I played sports, had roles in plays and worked on the lit. mag.

In college I was more recognizeable as a permanent fixture by the pool tables.

travelgal
09-09-2007, 10:04 AM
The responses here have been awesome. Looks like most of us couldn't wait to get out and into the real world. Now why doesn't that surprise me? I couldn't wait, either. Felt stifled, pushed to conform, not to have dreams, and just settle, be like everybody else. The last to be picked for a team, the one nobody except my friend wanted to sit next to, that's me, but most of the time, I didn't care. Most of the time.

I recall a class in Year 12 when the teacher (a most manipulative bloke, and everyone was scared of him, then he would crack a joke and everyone would laugh nervously.) passed round a jar of jelly beans. In silence. Nobody talked in his classroom. I decided to take two. Oh, my, the glares from the other girls. He snorted and smirked; as if he knew who would dare take two jelly beans.

My 20th renunion is this year. Probably won't go since I had emigrated. Most likely most are working in shops, banks, management, and the like. Keeping up with the Jones thingy. After all, that was what we were encouraged to do.

zahra
09-11-2007, 12:29 AM
I've blocked out the memories of school, pretty much. Seems safest. And not hard, as I was mentally absent for much of the time.