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Recently I reconnected with someone I knew in college. She was fun, cool, and a darn nice person. I had a big crush on her but I was very shy back then. I actually thought she didn't like me -- I wasn't particularly handsome, articulate, or outgoing. She would look at me, avert her eyes and "ignore" me. Because of that, I never thought I should get to know her better.
Well, now we've reconnected, and she is married and just became a mom and I don't really have the same feelings for her anymore, so we're just becoming friends, and she told me that she had a big crush on me back then and she was so afraid I would know. That was why she "ignored" me. I was fascinated by the revelation, and I realized I did the same thing. And she confirmed it -- she thought I was stuck up and not interested in her at all and she sure wasn't going to be the one who "came on" to me.
I realized what a waste of time and opportunities.
We are both different people now, and we joked that if we had met now instead of back then we would so totally get together. I guess it reminds me that one of the growing pains is how our confidence and uncertainty about life and love and relationships and everything else color our perceptions and judgment, and how life might have been different if we had said what we thought and believed and just waited for the other shoe to drop without worrying about the end of the world.
Well, now we've reconnected, and she is married and just became a mom and I don't really have the same feelings for her anymore, so we're just becoming friends, and she told me that she had a big crush on me back then and she was so afraid I would know. That was why she "ignored" me. I was fascinated by the revelation, and I realized I did the same thing. And she confirmed it -- she thought I was stuck up and not interested in her at all and she sure wasn't going to be the one who "came on" to me.
I realized what a waste of time and opportunities.
We are both different people now, and we joked that if we had met now instead of back then we would so totally get together. I guess it reminds me that one of the growing pains is how our confidence and uncertainty about life and love and relationships and everything else color our perceptions and judgment, and how life might have been different if we had said what we thought and believed and just waited for the other shoe to drop without worrying about the end of the world.
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